I'm home from my friend's husbands funeral service. We ask so much of families in our rituals surrounding death. I will go tonight with Tom and stand for hours by his brother's coffin and accept condolences. Tomorrow we will bury him beside his mother and father.
Ted had been in a band and making music all his life. Their uncle played with Benny Goodman. Tom's Dad and Aunts and Uncles all sang in the church choir - 11 of them. Tom in one of nine and I am one of one. Sometimes it is a bit overwhelming. This little ditty has been sung many a time by the older generation that taught it to the younger (but we are now the older generation). I've sung it and heard it many a night.
God showed Ted the way to go home on Sunday. That is my faith and it is what I believe. When I die my choice is to be cremated and whichever of us goes first holds those ashes to be put together when the other dies. A simple memorial service - with lots of music - is how we will handle this. We are going to make all of our arrangements so the boys won't have to try and figure out anything. God will show us the way.
A beautiful shot on this sad day. Sorry about your and Tom's loss. I can't imagine losing a sibling or parent. Praying you are surrounded by love and comfort today!
A beautiful shot to signify the loss you share .....I know you will draw comfort from your strong faith Cathy....how comforting is that in our times of need. This is when large families come into their own, all standing together in grief. Music is a great solace so that will help. Good you have organised your own services,,,I have a little book but Harry won't talk about it! Thinking of you tomorrow.
Almost like the light on this flower is from a candle which would suit your sad time. Good for you working out what you will do - we have done the same even though John tells people I will push his coffin up to the funeral parlour down the road, using my walker!
Beautiful close up. And I know what you mean about the funeral rituals. I think it is so cruel for us to do that. I am like you. I will be cremated myself but I do want a burial place for my son to go to if he needs to. My mom did this and I was so glad to have a place to put flowers and visit. And again, so sorry for your loss.
A beautiful capture I do not like all the rituals -- my funeral will be simple - cremation with music and my ashes later buried with my late husband' in Wales !
Beautiful flower and words. Having just had to do all the arrangements for my dad, I applaud you for making specific arrangements. At least I can dictate my own hours (being a Realtor) because this year has taken a great deal of time and work.
You are so strong to work through all you have going on!