Remembering Mom by digitalrn

Remembering Mom

I thought I would include at least one entry for this week's theme, so I chose to remember my Mother, Elsie. She passed from this world on July 9, 1999 at the young age of 65 from severe congestive heart failure. I was with her just a few hours before she passed away. The afternoon before she passed away they performed a thoracentesis, a procedure where they insert a needle into the chest cavity to remove excess fluid. Although they removed a large amount of fluid, it barely relieved her symptoms, and she continued to struggle to take each breath of air. I had spoken to her face to face a day or so before the procedure and I had the opportunity to ask her what her wishes were should the physicians be unable to help relieve her symptoms. She clearly told me she did not want to continue to struggle to breath, and absolutely did not want to be assisted with a respirator. She reminded me how Mammie, her Mother had died a terrible death, not being able to breath. So after the procedure I spoke with the physician and he informed me that her symptoms had not improved, and most likely would only worsen. I told him that Mom did not want to linger, and did not want to be placed on a respirator, rather she wanted a comfortable end if there was nothing else they could do. That night I said goodnight to her for the last time. Approxiamtely 4 hours after saying goodnight I received the call from the physician telling me that Mom has passed away comfortably in her sleep. Although it was tough knowing she was gone, I knew in my heart she received her last wish. So this night I remember you Mom, and we all miss you dearly.
A very touching story. So sorry for your loss. You are a great son.
April 30th, 2011  
What a lovely tribute
April 30th, 2011  
I am glad to see you still keep her memory with you... and I am sure she is with you day to day...
April 30th, 2011  
Beautiful.
April 30th, 2011  
A moving remembrance. You are a loving son.
April 30th, 2011  
Lovely tribute to your mom....nice picture Rick
April 30th, 2011  
Nice tribute, she is a much better place.
April 30th, 2011  
thank you for sharing such a beautiful story! Bless you for honoring her wishes!
April 30th, 2011  
Lovely tribute to your Mom. It is so hard to let them go but harder to see them suffer.
April 30th, 2011  
very poignant, Rick. she was a lovely woman. comfort and dignity is the best gift we can give our loved ones when they suffer. hugs.
April 30th, 2011  
Thanks for sharing your memories. You are a very brave and caring man.
April 30th, 2011  
April 30th, 2011  
A lovely remembrance. Thanks for sharing with us.
April 30th, 2011  
Very touching. I lost my dad two years ago at age 67 to congestive heart failure. You really never quit missing them, do you? But happy memories keep them alive in your heart.
April 30th, 2011  
Such a loving tribute for your mom! Now I see where your sensitivity and compassion come from. I can tell she was very proud of you. You honor her by the life you lead.
April 30th, 2011  
This is so beautiful, Rick. I hope my son will be as brave and you and as loving in respecting my wishes.
April 30th, 2011  
Bless your heart!!!
April 30th, 2011  
Nice remembrance of your mom, Rick.
April 30th, 2011  
Very sad but I bet you were a great son.
April 30th, 2011  
very beautiful TRIBUTE..... beautiful remembrance...
April 30th, 2011  
very sweet Rick.
April 30th, 2011  
poignant
April 30th, 2011  
Beautiful Rick,bought tears to my eyes,thoughts are with you.
April 30th, 2011  
Just beautiful.....Very nice to do something like this.
April 30th, 2011  
Your are a loving son to carry out her wishes! She looks like she was a loving person!
April 30th, 2011  
A wonderful tribute!
April 30th, 2011  
Thanks for sharing Rick! I'm sure you have many, many happy memories of her! A very nice tirbute!
April 30th, 2011  
I'm sorry for your loss Rick. This is a wonderful tribute.
April 30th, 2011  
thanks for sharing this with us--brought tears to my eyes---she was blessed to have a son who cared enough (unselfishly) to follow her wishes!!
April 30th, 2011  
wow...my eyes have welled up. so sorry to hear about your mother. but grateful that she had a compassionate son like you to honor her requests. and this is a lovely tribute shot! i love that poem!
April 30th, 2011  
Nice remembrance Rick. I can still remember the day my father died in 1991 and when my daughter died in 1992. We never forget.
April 30th, 2011  
Wow, what a wonderful tribute to your Mom! So beautiful and very touching!
April 30th, 2011  
Hving worked in a hospital for most of my life, 35 + years, it is so very good of you to have accomodated her wishes. I so often see families use every medical treatment known to science to no avail and not what the parent would have wanted. You are a great son and this is wonderful that you did not unnecessarily prolong her suffering. My mother, too left this earth 1 1/2 years ago. I miss her but know she is in a better place.
April 30th, 2011  
Thanks for sharing. Very touching story of love and of a farewell . So good that you could bravely talk to her and get her wish.
April 30th, 2011  
Your tribute to your mom shows great love, respect and tenderness. Thank you for sharing such a personal memory of what must have been a very heart wrenching time, and I'm glad her wishes for a peaceful passing were honored to the end. It must've have been hard to let go, but you did the right thing, I'm sure you eased her mind.
April 30th, 2011  
very touching and beautiful picture. the story was heartbreaking and i am sorry that you had to experience that. but what a nice tribute to your mom!
April 30th, 2011  
You remembered your beautiful Mom..a very touching story you shared with us. Be happy you had the change to say good bye as you told her good night. I immegrated and left parents and brother behind. the next year my mom died..it was hard being so far away at that time.
April 30th, 2011  
Thank you Rick for sharing your memories or your beautiful Mum. she will not be gone whilst she is in your memory
April 30th, 2011  
It is terrible to have to relive the final hours which are clearly etched in your memory. You must take comfort in knowing you unselfishly gave your mother a priceless gift. And how fortunate that her doctors listened.
April 30th, 2011  
this is lovely, your story is touching. Always remember the fun and happy times with you mom
May 1st, 2011  
What a wonderful tribute.
May 1st, 2011  
A very nice tribute.
May 1st, 2011  
Such a lovely tribute to a really beautiful lady. Amazing how we can miss our parents, isn't it. It is a reminder of how huge they are in our lives.
May 1st, 2011  
Touching tribute yo your mother.
May 1st, 2011  
Lovely tribute to your mom. My mom passed away July 9, 1997.
May 1st, 2011  
Beautiful tribute... (hug)
May 1st, 2011  
Such a loving tribute to your mom and how nice that you were able to grant her final wish though it must have been hard for you to let her go. Beautifully done Rick.
May 1st, 2011  
You are a lovley man, Rick. A wonderful tribute!
May 1st, 2011  
What a wonderful tribute.
May 1st, 2011  
You're a great husband, a wonderful grandpa and apparently an amazing son. Beautiful tribute.
May 2nd, 2011  
Very touching. Wonderful tribute to her.
May 2nd, 2011  
What a beautiful tribute to you Mother Rick.
Such a striking lady.
To be able to follow the heath directive of a loved one is the very best you can do for them.
Mothers are very special people.
May 2nd, 2011  
May she rest in peace. You are a good son.
May 3rd, 2011  
Beautiful, Rick. I find that people who speak so highly of their loved ones that have passed, have a lot of great memories to cling to. In the end, for those left behind, it's the memories that count.
May 4th, 2011  
Beautiful Rick. Your Mom was wise and knew it was time to go home to her Abba.
May 6th, 2011  
Beautiful tribute
May 9th, 2011  
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