Each Other

Excellent viewed large!

After my wife suddenly passed away in 2004, my son and I were struggling to find our bearings. Amidst the chaos I came upon this small wooden sculpture and it struck a chord with me; we may have suffered a tragic loss, but we still have each other, father and son. It now sits prominently on our fireplace mantle as a quiet reminder.

Oddly enough, I've never taken a photo of it (that I can recall); I would say it's overdue. And since I was challenged to cross some items off my bucket list by Abhijit for Get Pushed 15, I think this fits :)

Image is SOOC other than a slight crop from left to right.

I was wandering around the place looking for subjects to test my new camera on. I have a slightly different approach to new DIGITAL cameras; film is pretty straight forward. One of my favorites is to take the camera to it's extremes; in this case low light that would tax the resolution at the highest ISO and very slow shutter speed. What's more, I shoot without tripod to see if I can hold the camera steady at slow shutter speeds (ergonomics and comfort are very important). In the resultant image I look for blurriness and "banding" in the grain; where you see lines cutting through your image. I am happy to report that out of the 18 images I shot, none banded. In fact, it produced some of the most luscious grain I've seen in a digital.

Concerning the bokeh lights in the lower right; some would ask why I didn't edit them out. Aesthetically I would agree, but personally they remind me that no matter how bleak things may seem, there is always a glimmer of happiness and hope somewhere in the picture; we just have to be careful not to crop it out :)

If you aren't familiar with this camera, you can see it here: http://365project.org/grizzlysghost/365/2011-05-24

PP 2 November 2012
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T20 Week 126, #14, 9 November 2012
T5 Get Pushed 15
Winner Get Pushed 15
What an amazing reminder that you two have each other after such a loss.. Willow tree is my favorite statue.. and I like the Bokeh and the explaination was spot on.. :-) fav
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Fabulous shot! Your story is so touching!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Thanks for letting us know a sad piece of your history! It must be still hard and even doing this picture would have been emotional for you! Thats a sweet sculpture with father getting down to son's height so he could put his arm around father's shoulders as a strength!. I had a golden bokeh like this today - didn't know why!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
@maggiemae Haha, that bokeh will sneak up on you like that MaggieMae, when you least expect it. Thanks!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
This is very lovely Aaron! Faved! =)
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Very cool, nice POV! Nice story!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Speechless Aaron ... Peace to Both Your Hearts Brother ... FAV
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Thank you for sharing this life story Aaron... it's a very effective POV, and I love the light along the edges.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Aaron, I'm very sorry for your loss. The shot conveys a lot of very deep emotions. Well done.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
I love the little lights - makes it a real room. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, and so glad you have each other so strongly. The little figurines are perfect.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Thank you for sharing this piece of your life with us. I love the statue and what it represents.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Lovely shot with a beautiful but sad story behind it.. There is always a light!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Love those final words you wrote... so true :) This is a warm and serene shot. All the wood and the art on the walls is beautiful.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
thanks for sharing your sadness....and your hopefulness as well! so good that you and your son have each other. i absolutely love this shot - a fav. I think i really like the unique perspective....and the dof the most.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Willow trees are a great symbol for many things I started collecting them when I became a mother. So sorry for yours and your sons loss. What a personal shot a wonderful display of the bonds between father and son though. Your touch of happiness at the bottom was a wonderful touch.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Your story brought a lump to my throat. This is a fantastic little ornament to show your hope xx
posted November 2nd, 2012  
what a reminder that we should live each day like it was our last... beautiful words Aaron, and great photo .
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Fabulous photo, fabulous story, thanks for sharing.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
A very moving image and story - it really is a gentle reminder of the importance of your relationship with your son. Cheers Aaron you have something very special there!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
wow........Thank you....
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Aaron, after such a life changing experience, it is so good to hear that you and your Son found that strength to build on. The sculpture is an excellent reminder of the bond you two must have. The photo looks wonderful
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Nice exhibit of DOF and a glimpse of you.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
so sorry to hear about your loss, but after all it´s inspiring to see that you still there, full of creativity and humor! :)
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Pam
I agree with you about the grain. It is wonderful. Your story, and this photo is very touching. I love that you kept the bokeh. Beautiful, Aaron.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
a very moving story and a beautiful shallow dof of a very meaningful statue
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Sue
Wonderful photo Aaron. Lost for words, you story also bought a lump to my throat.So good to have each other to lean on.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
A beautiful little reminder of the strength that you can draw on from each other. Beautiful words and shot. Thanks for sharing.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
It's a beautiful shot and thank you for sharing our touching story.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Thanks for sharing your story Aaron. I'm glad you photographed the statue & reminded us to treasure those we love. It's a beautiful photo!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Sorry for your loss Aaron.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
There's something very warm and emotive in this shot Aaron - even before I read your commentry. I love how the simplest of things remind us of those that were/are dear to us.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
fCongrats back to you for making top 20 also.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Lovely tribute shot!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Aaron, this is gorgeous, and your description of the pic brought me to tears... what a great reminder of what you have! So sorry for your loss, but am glad you and your son have each other. And I agree, the bokeh is perfect!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Great capture and story. Loss is always a hard thing to deal with an we all cope in different ways. Personally I think photography is an excellent outlet for coping and remembering a loved one and dedicating pictures helps me greatly.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
I have nothing but respect for you Aaron, for sharing such a personal piece with us.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Very touching thanks for sharing + a nice photo too. You and your m9 did a great job.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Excellent DOF. So sorry to hear of your loss but thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life. The bokeh is perfect here.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Thank you for sharing the statue and your touching story with us - The warm glow certainly emphasies the special bond between you and your son and the explanation for leaving the bokeh, spot on.
The last line of your text is so true and I believe, it applies to life as well. Strength to you, Aaron and your son.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Super focused shot!!
posted November 2nd, 2012  
I love your pov and the golden glow is like the golden glow of love. Thank you for sharing. And your line about not cropping out the hope in our lives is spot on! Beautiful and Fav because I want to remember that sentiment.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
It is such a beautiful sculpture, and thanks for sharing your story that goes with it, I am so glad that you found it, and that it serves you in such a beautiful way. I agree with the bokeh, no matter how dark it seems hope always seems to be there.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Gorgeous photo, love your pov. It is an emotive shot without your story, but with your explanation there is even more beauty in it. Fav
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Such a poignant shot. I bet you have a wonderful relationship.
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Great photo - love your POV. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Sounds like you have a special relationship with your son. You are very lucky. I have a few Willow Tree sculptures and they mean a lot to me. Congrats on the new camera
posted November 2nd, 2012  
Aw. That's a cute little carving. Great DOF here - perfect for the theme.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Gorgeous shot Aaron of such a lovely sculpture. I'm sorry for your and your sons loss. You make me want to come on over and give you both a hug.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Dang, I love this. I'm sorry for your loss. Proud of your strength, if only as a virtual acquaintance. Yes, we should keep the frame large enough to appreciate unexpected sources of light.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
You always come up with the most interesting shot, love this one!
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Endearing and moving, a lovely object too!
posted November 3rd, 2012  
such a beautiful photo... i'm so sorry for your loss... it must have been such a rough time for you and your boy...
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Wow, Aaron, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart feels your loss. This shot is just wonderful, and I love how you've explained it so honestly.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Such a wonderful shot and thanks for the explanation of what it means to you.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
What a beautiful shot and story. Teenage sons (in my experience) are both a pain in the neck and a wonder to behold and it's the care and guidance you give that develops the latter. You clearly make a wonderful unit. And I'm going to remember the last sentiments for friends in need. I have seen friends in distress (not just bereaved but facing unwanted divorce as well etc) 'cropping' with all their might when they needed to let the light in.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Gorgeous capture of such a meaningful object. It really is a beautiful photo and I love how you look at the bokeh :) I am really sorry for your and your sons loss! My heart goes out to you both. Thanks for sharing. Xx
posted November 3rd, 2012  
What a gorgeous capture of such a beautiful reminder for the two of you. I'm so sorry for your loss and can't imagine how tough that time was for you both. I love your thoughts on the bokeh. To me, it looks as though the father and son are focused directly on those sparkling bits of hope. :) fav
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Great shot and a story that torches my heart. I lost my husband in 1998 and my two children were young. Recently after, I bought a table sculpture of three giraffes as a symbol of our unity. Ever since we call ourselves "the three giraffes".
Glad to find it in the PP. FAV.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
A very touching image. Fav.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Thank you for sharing...I can't imagine having to pick up and regroup after such a loss. Beautiful symbol of your strength and bond with your son.
posted November 3rd, 2012  
These sculptures are wonderful, we have a few now.
This one is great and offers such warmth and feeling...
posted November 3rd, 2012  
beautiful DOF love the warm tones of the wood around
That's a nice object and i can understand what it means to you
Fav for the photo and the feeling it gives ;)
posted November 3rd, 2012  
Kim
oh my! my heart goes out to you and your son. I cannot even imagine going through that. when my dad died in 2010 a friend sent me the Willow tree statue of the father and daughter. Seeing yours in this photo made me remember we are not alone in our struggles.
posted November 4th, 2012  
A story both heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time.
Loved you talk about the experimentation. I do some of that myself and in the end, I always feel like I have learned something new. :-)
posted November 4th, 2012  
Great shot and such a heart wrenching story to go along with it.

Looks like we're paired up for the Get Pushed challenge this week! I have to say I'm a little intimidated, I really admire your work. I'd like to push you to take a photo of a child (think 10 or under).
posted November 4th, 2012  
Beautiful
posted November 4th, 2012  
This is a really touching shot! Very Beautiful!!! FAV!!!
posted November 4th, 2012  
what a beautiful reminder for you both!! Love the shot:)
posted November 4th, 2012  
So sorry for the sudden loss of your wife. I like the statue as a quiet reminder and this pic is great too. FAV
I'm not sure what you mean by banding. Can you post one sometime that HAS banding?
posted November 4th, 2012  
That is a Willow Tree figurine. It's such a beautiful reminder or the father and son bond. I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful image. I love the dof, lighting, and the bokeh in the corner. FAV
posted November 4th, 2012  
I am so very sorry for your loss and deeply touched by you sharing such a deep love with us. The figurine is a beautiful reminder of the love you shared with your wife, living on in your son. Very Beautiful!
posted November 4th, 2012  
Sad yet hopeful capture...
posted November 4th, 2012  
My heart went out to you when I read this story, I know just how lonely and desolate loss can feel, and how close we become to our children when we are a lone parent. My husband died when my two children were 7 and 4. This is such a poignant and touching photo, it really did bring a lump to my throat. God bless you.....
posted November 4th, 2012  
Mel
I was looking at the get pushed voting page and your picture stood out as having great meaning and I wondered what the story was so clicked on through. Thank you for sharing your story, made my chest hurt and put what i thought was being a bad day into perspective, i love the warmth of colour in your shot.
posted November 4th, 2012  
I am sorry for your loss. Such a touching tribute.
posted November 5th, 2012  
Jim
Wow Aaron. The sentiment behind the subject matter is inspiring, and the way you captured it is really nice. I love the DOF and the slight shadow on the wall behind the statue. Thanks for sharing the story and the image
posted November 5th, 2012  
Thank you for sharing. The sculpture and your photo of it are really beautiful.
posted November 5th, 2012  
Hey Aaron - This is wonderful. You made me reflect on the little things that remind me of loved ones who have passed away and the good things past and present with our family. Coincidentally I shot a photo on Thursday evening of a piece of art which is a couple embracing, dancing. I think it is by the same artist as your piece. Please take a look at my image of a few days ago. Take Care.
posted November 5th, 2012  
For some reason I didn't see this earlier. Awesome response Aaron. Love the shot. What I like even more is the story behind it. Very touching
posted November 5th, 2012  
A beautiful little sculpture and sentiment. It does look nice large.
posted November 8th, 2012  
My husband has this one too. Your commentary is very touching. All the best to you and your son supporting each other through it all
posted November 8th, 2012  
Congrats Aaron!! Two in the Top 20!! Well done!! I loved this one right off the bat! :)
posted November 10th, 2012  
Thats funny i know i saw this when you first posted it! i must have gotten distracted and did not make my comment! Either way it is an awesome shot and I have this statue also ..gave it to my husband and son..as i collect them also...I am sorry for your loss...this is a wonderful tribute to her and your son..and maybe the light is to resemble her still there looking over the two of you! love it! FAV!
posted November 10th, 2012  
Congratulations on the get pushed win!
posted November 10th, 2012  
Two in the top 20 - double congratulations!
posted November 10th, 2012  
Lyn
Oh, Aaron, I didn't know this one made it, too. Congratulations again and again. . .
posted November 10th, 2012  
Thank you for sharing your story. Beautiful sculpture. Fav.
posted November 10th, 2012  
Lovely =)
posted November 13th, 2012  
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