My brother and I visited dad yesterday and shared a flask of coffee with him in the grounds of his care home. Steve and I then spent the afternoon looking at the still mammoth (despite one 14ft skip having already been filled) task of clearing out dad's house before putting it up for sale. It's such a delicate thing to do whilst he is still around. To that end we are bringing him to his house tomorrow to allow him to get anything he might still want. It's risky, it may unsettle him, but he wants to do it, and we feel we owe it to him to give him that opportunity for closure on his home of 36 years.
It is risky, but I think you are wise to let him see the place once more and anything he might want, however small. Wishing you well. I love this photo. So nice to see the man that I consider to be a legend from so many of your photos. I think he's awesome.
What a wonderful capture Issi - is that his care home behind them? It's such a magnificent building! Next time you share a coffee there, you'll have to put on your timer and get in the photo too :) And I know it was possibly a hard decision to take your father back to his home - but I feel it's the right thing to do for him. Hope all goes well. fav
This is a wonderful shot if your dad & brother. Your dad looks just as I imagined him....a doughty Scottish laird! He looks a man who has lived life in the mountains & I’m so glad to see the wonderful nursing home you have chosen for him. It’s the best backdrop & I would think he can enjoy the grounds & smell the pines.
He has to look round his home....too late once they’ve gone & you might think something tiny & unimportant but is treasure to your dad. He will be upset but it has to be done...a hard day for you all.
A wonderful portrait. It's good that you agreed to visit the old house with your father. My mother doesn't want to visit her apartment, but she likes to hear stories about what is going on there.
If that is his care home behind then wow, it’s a magnificent looking place. Good luck taking him back to his home, I so hope it goes well for you all
Oh Issi, I do feel for you all. My M-in-law wanted to give away so much of her lovely "stuff" She had our names printed & stuck underneath what she particularly wanted us to have, Your Dad wants to go there so I do pray it will help bring closer to leaving all that behind & embrace his new "home." So pleased your brother is there too..
What a lovely photo. I know it is going to be hard for all of you but it has to be done, he has to see his house again and keep any treasures and mementos he needs.
Lovely image Issi. It's such a tough situation to be in. I'm currently helping a very dear, elderly friend who has recently moved into care and she enjoys going back to visit her home. It also gives her a chance to tell us the stories behind some of the treasures that she wants to pass on to people.
That is a fabulous pic of your Dad and brother......and his lovely care home and grounds. I do so hope all goes well when you and he return to his home. Sending hugs .......
I feel your pain with regard to clearing out the house. I did the same after my sister passed 2 years ago. It was an enormous task, finally putting it up for sale now.
Good luck with taking your dad back to his former home, I hope it goes well for all of you.
He has to look round his home....too late once they’ve gone & you might think something tiny & unimportant but is treasure to your dad. He will be upset but it has to be done...a hard day for you all.
I do hope everything goes well for you all.
Good luck with taking your dad back to his former home, I hope it goes well for all of you.