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27th January 2011
Engagement Ring by mrssmith

Engagement Ring

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I told Chris not to buy an engagement ring that he had to pay for each month. I would have been happy with anything. So, he found this ring for me at a jewelry store going out of business, and later, I discovered that it cost $99.00. He gave it to me at Christmas in 1989.

Through the years, this ring has endured some wear and tear. The most damage occurred one day when I bent it while helping Chris set up a new mailbox at our home on Providence Lane. I always thought about having it fixed, but I thought it represented our life more to leave it as is because our marriage wasn’t always perfect.

I no longer wear this ring or my wedding ring. I took them off one day when I saw Chris’s ring in a box all alone. I felt like the best place for my rings was with his. That’s where they have remained. I rather like the idea that our rings are all together. Still, not a day doesn’t go by when I feel for the rings and remember why I can’t find them.

My favorite photo from this project is our wedding rings: http://365project.org/mrssmith/365/2010-07-27


One more to go….
Comments
This is beautiful...I hope you're doing okay...
And one more day?! How exciting! Will you carry on? I will miss you if you go =[
posted January 27th, 2011  
So beautiful... love the history of the ring too.
And .... you'd better continue with the project!!!!! I'd miss you ....
posted January 27th, 2011  
It's beautiful! It looks almost exactly like mine, which cost about $200. It's not really the size of the ring but the thought behind it. I was admiring a relative's engagement ring once because it was HUGE and she said something to me that I would come to understand later. She said that my ring was a whole lot better than hers because mine probably meant something to me. I thought that was a curious thing to say for someone who had just gotten engaged. They had a $30,000 wedding and Stevie Wonder attended because he knew the groom. Their marriage didn't even last a year. Sad that she must have known she didn't really love him in the first place.

Sorry to ramble, photos tend to make me do that LOL.

Wow, one more picture to go! I'm excited for you!
posted January 27th, 2011  
Lovely shot Carla, .. Enjoy the last one in your 365 tomorrow, & deep breath .. Looks like "You did it ((0; " ,well done
posted January 27th, 2011  
Another day closer to finding you again. I love your pictures and the stories behind them. Thank you. I hope you are doing okay?
posted January 27th, 2011  
as always, great commentary and a great picture!
posted January 27th, 2011  
goose bumps. I like the idea that they are together. Can't wait for your big day tomorrow
posted January 28th, 2011  
Hi Mrs. Smith. I hope you continue with this project. When my husband and I viewed your picture tonight we kind of chucked........your ring looks a lot like mine and probably cost about the same amount, only mine does not have the bend in it. Your link to the other picture brought me to tears. I hope you stay with this project........I know we all would love to continue to encourage you.
posted January 28th, 2011  
beautiful story
posted January 28th, 2011  
I hope you will continue, because I enjoy your commentary.
posted January 28th, 2011  
I looked back at your July wedding band picture and read all the comments and thought nostalgically that I "knew" practically everyone who commented and now so many have scattered. I guess you will be leaving next. But like all your other friends I'm hoping you will stay on. I'm looking forward to another assignment from Mrs. Smith!
posted January 28th, 2011  
Thanks for sharing a beautiful and touching story.
posted January 28th, 2011  
Carla, you know some do wear all of them afterward, and by that I mean all 3 worn on one person. It's not weird, and I personally find it very fitting and devotional. Just a thought.
posted January 28th, 2011  
The fact that you have them together seems very fitting, and it is something that you probably find great menaing in. That's what counts. I looked back at thge previous photo. It was a beautiful one. Whether you continue on with this project or not is something you must work through, but as you can see, there are so many that are hoping that you do continue, as do I, but either way, your commentaries and your journey here on 365 have impacted so many of our lives, you will be sorely missed.
posted January 28th, 2011  
As usual, your photo and your comment is touching and thought provoking. Please stay with us.
posted January 28th, 2011  
you brought tears to my eyes... it does seem fitting that the rings are together. i've so enjoyed your photos and commentary each day. it's hard to imagine the site without your contribution :( (not to guilt trip you) i hope you will decide to stay with us, but if not stay in touch...yay! for your tomorrow!
posted January 28th, 2011  
I love that shot of your rings also...and gosh, one more day...but surely you will hang in with all of us for another (more laid back) 2nd year, won't you?
posted January 28th, 2011  
This is just beautiful!!!! I followed your link back to the other shot, and I immediately understand why it is your favorite...your commentary there touches my heart!!!

Will you stay or leave after tomorrow?!?
posted January 28th, 2011  
OK - as I often do when I read your writings, I am crying. I am so glad that I went back and looked and every one of your photos and read every post when I came to the project a few short weeks ago. I hope you do not leave us but I'm so proud that you are only 1 away from finishing. You are such a special person and all of your friends here get it right when they say you have touched so many hearts.
posted January 28th, 2011  
This reminds me so much of my engagement ring. It's simple -- just like mine. I told my fiance the same thing before he proposed. This almost made me cry reading it. I can't imagine what you go through on a daily basis. I can't believe you're only one day from completing this project... I'll miss seeing you around!
posted January 28th, 2011  
it's beautiful Carla--I like how your rings are together! I can't believe you are almost done--you ARE going to continue aren't you???
posted January 28th, 2011  
Love the ring / love the story.
I experimented with not wearing my wedding / engagement rings but am not ready to give them up yet.
One day' I'd like to wear my rings plus Greg's ring on my other hand.... a bit of resizing to be done first though...
posted January 28th, 2011  
A beautiful story and a good place to keep the rings that mean so much. Thank you for sharing it
posted January 28th, 2011  
Great picture and story! As my husband battles cancer, I've thought about such things as what I would do with his ring (your mind goes weird places while sitting in the hospital for hours.) I think I will find someway to wear it, like around my neck.
posted January 28th, 2011  
Your picture brings tears to my eyes. I wish you every happiness and I hope you continue your 365 :o) xXx
posted January 28th, 2011  
I love that you keep all the rings together. It's poetic and just seems right. I'll be back soon to congratulate you on #365. :)
posted January 28th, 2011  
Thank you for sharing your ring and your story.
posted January 29th, 2011  
What a lovely sentiment. Thank you for sharing and I hope you will continue.
posted January 29th, 2011  
As it should be, this is on the popular page. :)
posted January 29th, 2011  
Thanks for sharing your ring story. I too tried to figure out what to do with our rings. I wear David's & mine on a chain around my neck. It will be 8 months on the 29th of this month that he died. Does time change anything?
posted January 29th, 2011  
I cried when I read the link to your wedding rings tonight. I understand. . . .
posted January 29th, 2011  
Aaaaaaaw, what a gorgeous engagement ring! My sister in law lost her husband to lung cancer a couple of years ago. She wears his ring on a necklace around her neck and her own ring around her ringfinger. This way the rings are always together.
posted January 30th, 2011  
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