Oh Ann, so sorry to hear this news. That is the one thing that was hardest to deal with when I worked in the area of mental health. You never really know why someone would take such a drastic measure. Prayers sent for Jeff and all the family.
This is so sad and as you say so difficult to understand. "If only" words are always tied to this event! Sorry you and Jeff are in the middle of this dark period!
I am so sorry to hear your sad news. My Brother in law is going through depression , alcholoism and threats of suicide. Its not pleasent and yes its very hard not to know why. We know his problem but he just wont admit it.
So sorry to hear that Ann. I agree, not being able to ask why is the hardest part. My sister decided to leave us like this 16 years ago and we are still unsure why. My thoughts are with you.
Not knowing why is hard. I always think one of the worst things is that there is still a stigma attached so people have a harder time talking about it and offering each other support. When a good friend committed suicide, i also lost another friend who just couldn't bear to admit or talk about it at all and had to get away from all reminders. I'm glad that is changing some
Such sad news, Ann. I am truly sorry for your and your family's loss. My cousin who I was close to chose to take her own life the day before my birthday. It will be 10 years this year. I can understand the hardships that people who take their own lives deal with. I have my own and sometimes wonder if it would be easier. Thankfully I have a great therapist and a select few who help me get through day by day. I have to hope that something positive will go my way. It hurts losing someone you love in such a way. Hugs to you and your family, Ann.
I just wanted to say thank you to both of you. We really appreciate all the caring words everyone is sharing with us. It is not going to be an easy time over the next few days, but we will get through it and it will get better. Thank you again Dixie and Bev!
this is truly a difficult thing to understand especially when it hits us personally. my thoughts and prayers are with jeff, and, you, of course, and the whole family as they start to try and understand that they couldn't have done anything to prevent it. i lost a friend to suicide 10 years ago when everyone thought she had made an excellent turn around from her situation. i pray that you continue to be positive and strong as jeff's emotional support. tke care, ann.
@vickisfotos Thank you Vicki! @summerfield Thank you Vikki! I read your note to Jeff and he sends his thanks. He is also insisting that I tell you I have done a good job in the support department. Actually, although my heart is very sad for my sister-in-law, niece and nephew, I must say I feel like I've been through all the emotions of this tragedy when one of the students in the school where I was teaching committed suicide in 2010. I learned then that you have to let yourself walk through all the emotions and take it as it is. Some questions will never be answered, hang on to the good memories, and allow yourself to feel what you feel. Thanks for the prayers and support!
I am so sorry! I only read the title and did not catch the narration before I pressed the send...it is a tragedy for sure...we have dealt with suicide in my husband's family as well. it makes you feel so horrible because you feel the guilt of what you missed that might have been able to help.
@vickisfotos Thank you Vicki- I am finding out that so many people have been touched by suicide- almost as many as cancer. Although most of the family knew he was struggling, he kept most of the intensity of it all hidden. It is sad, but his mind was not rational and he couldn't even figure out how to ask for help. But thankfully, he had prayed the salvation prayer a while back and although he was like the seed that fell among the thorns, we do believe that the Lord will be merciful toward him and has welcomed him home. The hardest part will be comforting and supporting his widow and children through the mourning process and at those times when they will really wish he was still here. But God will see us through that too.
@eudora Thank you Diane! It seems incredible that 2 weeks have gone by since. Thankfully the family is holding up and supporting one another. We will survive.
May 10th, 2014
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I am so grateful to all of you for the loving words of encouragement and prayer. Words cannot express how much they mean to me.
Thank you Kelsi, Simmy, Debs, Jackie, and Sally! Your support and caring thoughts mean the world to us right now.
I just wanted to say thank you to both of you. We really appreciate all the caring words everyone is sharing with us. It is not going to be an easy time over the next few days, but we will get through it and it will get better. Thank you again Dixie and Bev!
@summerfield Thank you Vikki! I read your note to Jeff and he sends his thanks. He is also insisting that I tell you I have done a good job in the support department. Actually, although my heart is very sad for my sister-in-law, niece and nephew, I must say I feel like I've been through all the emotions of this tragedy when one of the students in the school where I was teaching committed suicide in 2010. I learned then that you have to let yourself walk through all the emotions and take it as it is. Some questions will never be answered, hang on to the good memories, and allow yourself to feel what you feel. Thanks for the prayers and support!