This desiccating bunch of red and white roses was tied to the back of the seat on the grass above the prom at Lee-on-Solent last time we walked there.
No words with it so I cannot tell the story of 'in memory'. But it made a good trial for the in-camera s/c red.
Ray tells me of a sign he saw recently at one of our local parks asking for flowers and other memorabilia not to be left in this way as the park is a place of pleasure and recreation.
I wonder what others think of this. I'm reporting, not necessarily agreeing, but I do find mass shows of outpouring of grief in public places difficult to understand as, for me, grief is very private.
Thank you for support for my yesterday's starling who flew on to PP in his mismatched livery.
I try and buy 'people' flowers now, not wait til they die, but if this helps grief in some way then it has to be done. Your processing underlines the feelings of sadness and compassion.
Excellent selective colouring. Not sure what the story is here either, but if it is a grieving process I suppose everyone grieves in different ways. Maybe it is a jilted lover and she said 'No'. Whatever the story, it is a sad one.
Love the selective colouring.
We'll never know the story of these roses; could be a very sad one. I agree # mass shows of outpouring of grief in public places.
I like your choice of processing, Hazel. I can understand a loved one placing a floral tribute, but I'm with you on mass shows of outpouring grief. 😀
Personally I don't like seeing these displays of sypathy & grief. I might feel completely different in the grieving persons shoes but I can't think I would like to,remember a loved one in the place they died usually in a horrific accident. I think it's uncomfortable in a public place.
Nice capture of these sad flowers,
I love the touch of grief. I buried my eldest son almost six years. I have learned to embrace all the ways that we share our grief. Sometimes it is just something we need to do, and if it is public, so be it. If it is too much for others, so be it. Our grief, our way. Our loss, our expression. We traveled well over a thousand miles to lay a cross and wildflowers at the scene of our son's accident. We learned that others needed the opportunity to put things on his grave, even if we were uncomfortable at first. We found stuffed animals, flowers, their grief, their expression. I have studied the grieving process and attend national conferences on grief and grief is a part of life whether we are uncomfortable with outward signs or not. I have buried father, mother, brother, son, and two of my husband's siblings at far too early an age, it is healthier for a person to express their grief - even publicly - than to let it kill them inside.
@happypat I think I mostly felt that the notice was a bit unfeeling but I personally do not like mass displays of grief either when complete strangers 'join in'.
A lovely use of the selective colour. I also have a bit of a problem with public outpourings of grief, though not if it's confined to friends and family. We have a lamppost up the road laden with flowers for a loved one, but no one seems to have taken it upon themselves to remove them and now they're all dead and it just looks awful as there are so many.
wonderful use of s/c
The trend in South Africa is to place flowers along the street (poles usually). Have not seen any in other places yet. Though do tend to agree with you. They are celebrating their loved ones death and not their life.
My brother died in a car accident at the age of 30. Too young.
What we did was start a school fund to help students go to university. This we did in his honour instead of dead flowers on the roadside
A sad find Hazel I think some want to share their grief with as many people as possible possible to help them get through the sudden loss of their loved one.
We'll never know the story of these roses; could be a very sad one. I agree # mass shows of outpouring of grief in public places.
Nice capture of these sad flowers,
Terri, thank you so much for your heartfelt post. So much to think about, so many people's different needs to consider.
Yes, I think that is the worst practical aspect.
The trend in South Africa is to place flowers along the street (poles usually). Have not seen any in other places yet. Though do tend to agree with you. They are celebrating their loved ones death and not their life.
My brother died in a car accident at the age of 30. Too young.
What we did was start a school fund to help students go to university. This we did in his honour instead of dead flowers on the roadside