It's almost coming up on a year when the biggest transition began in my life-- officially 10 months ago-- when my future exhusband and I started the process towards realizing we simply weren't good for one another.
There were a lot (and I mean a lot) of downs during the first few months... I'm not even sure you can call the "ups" ups right now, they were just not as down as it could be. After nearly 20 years together, we both needed to figure out how to do this in the most healthy way possible for the kids and ourselves, as well as create a new relationship between us.
None of that is easy.
We both still make mistakes.
But we're learning.
Personally, I needed to define what my future was going to look like, to rediscover who I am and who I want to be from that point forward. It was (and is) a daunting task and included some silly ideas like writing down every time I wore or did something that made me feel good and saying yes to every opportunity and invitation to socialize that came my way.
It's still a process, but it's nice to know that I can stop and "turn the channel" to keep fine tuning this new life. I'm also eternally grateful for the friends that have been there with me, encouraged me, and sometimes even pushed me along the way.
My transition is still in process... but I'm learning, and I guess that's all that matters.
(Also, I think there's a little Hellcat starting to show... :D for those that remember...)
Ira