Shared Grief by vickisfotos

Shared Grief

Our community was shocked last week as news of Whitney Heichel went from missing to murdered. She was only 21, a newlywed.
This does not happen here…maybe across town, but not right next door! When the news first came out, my prayers were that they would find her quickly. Then as the days slipped by and it started looking more and more like things were not going to turn out positive, I began praying that if they didn't find her alive, that it would not be her husband who had done it. He had been the last person to see her early that morning as she left for work at a nearby Starbucks. Too often, that is the case, they just seemed like such a wholesome young couple. I didn't want that image shattered. But then I realized, if not the husband…then who? Was there a murderer walking around in our community? Would there be more victims? Sadly, the news came that her body was found, and thankfully, her murderer was not the husband, but a man named Jonathan Holt, from her apartment complex. It is all such a tragedy! I continue praying for her husband, her parents, brothers and sisters, her other family members, her friends, her church, for what they have to live with, the images, the regrets, the ‘if onlys’, for their healing.
I also pray for the family of Jonathan Holt. He is 24, has a wife and parents and family and neighbors too. They also have lost a family member. They will need much love and care through this time too. They will have to not only live with the grief and shock, they will also have to cope with the shame and guilt of it forever.
They are victims of this too.
A memorial site is located at the Starbucks where she worked. I stopped past today and took a photo. I can’t stop thinking about it. Maybe it is the mother in me. I remember watching her Mother plead for help on the news when they first began searching for her. Her tears were heart wrenching. Her grief laid out in public as she wrapped her arms around her son-in-law and sobbed with him. She was so brave to speak, when he could not, she continued on as any mother would do to protect and fight for her child.
Once again, we are reminded that life is so precious and that we need to be careful to make the most of what we have now, to love those around us while we have them.

https://www.facebook.com/WhitneyHeichelMemorial

http://portlandtribune.com/go/42-news/121557-body-of-missing-woman-found-neighbor-arrested
Terrible story. Wonder what the motive was.
October 22nd, 2012  
A wonderful telling of this sad tale Vicki , you have said all that we would all feel with love & compassion.
October 22nd, 2012  
Beautiful
October 22nd, 2012  
Your photo is a beautiful tribute to a beautiful life cut short. Your story brought tears to my eyes.
October 22nd, 2012  
To sad and terrible story. what can I say. I`ve tears in my eyes reading it
October 22nd, 2012  
What a terrible tragedy. I got goose bumps reading it, and yes, that mother inside of me was terrified. God bless her memory and give comfort to her relatives.
October 22nd, 2012  
How very sad.
October 22nd, 2012  
Such a tragedy. A beautiful memorial and tribute to a life cut short.
October 22nd, 2012  
Oh this just breaks my heart, Vicki. I hope her family will find peace and comfort. You wonder what takes a person to that place where they can do something so horrible. So many people affected.
October 22nd, 2012  
terrible story Vicki.
October 22nd, 2012  
Oh dear the world is a crazy place, so sorry Vicki
October 22nd, 2012  
What a sad & tragic story, so sorry for a young life cut short in such a horrible way...
October 22nd, 2012  
Tears. Your commentary is so moving. What sadness this is. Important to share it - helps to divide it! Too much to feel alone.
October 22nd, 2012  
I have always thought that would be one of the worse things to have your child turn up missing, no matter how old they are. So sorry this had such a tragic ending. Prayers go out to these families and thank you for the reminder to be thankful for what we have while we still have it.
October 22nd, 2012  
Deb
So sad! I drove out yesterday to buy a coffee . . .
October 22nd, 2012  
Goodness... that's terrible!!
October 22nd, 2012  
What a tragedy. My heart goes out to her family and friends and to everyone in your community who was affected by this.
October 23rd, 2012  
So sad. It fits my mood as well as we lost a dear friend of ours over the weekend to pancreatic cancer. Been my husband's friend since high school many years ago.
October 23rd, 2012  
I saw this story on the news and I was feeling exactly what you have described. From the looks of all of the flowers it is an tragic event that is affect many many people
October 23rd, 2012  
Sorry to hear about that.
October 23rd, 2012  
@wannabe I know just what you mean...I can get myself all worked up thinking about one of my kids suffering and terrorized...and that is only what my imagination does...to think what families go through,,,and those who NEVER find them...always wondering, always looking...
October 23rd, 2012  
Beautiful tribute shot and lovely title.
October 23rd, 2012  
Such a heart-breaking story. Life is so fragile and unpredictable. A beautiful tribute, Vicki.
October 23rd, 2012  
A beautiful image and such poignant and touching words Vicki. Why is such a useless question, the waste of life so awful, the pain and grief never ending for her family and the pain and shame for the other family too. At least she was found. Little April, aged 5, is still missing in Wales although a man has been charged with her murder.
Man's inhumanity to man seems to know no bounds. They will all be held in my prayers.
October 23rd, 2012  
such sad news, lovely tribute shot Vicki
October 23rd, 2012  
Such a horrible tragedy.
October 23rd, 2012  
Great tribute and words, Vicki. A very tragic incident indeed.
October 23rd, 2012  
Thank you for sharing such a a sad time for everyone.
October 23rd, 2012  
Beautiful Tribute shot...I read about this in the news and thought it might be close to U..such a heart wrenching story..R.I.P Whitney
October 23rd, 2012  
Pam
Such a tragedy:(
October 23rd, 2012  
What a beautiful tribute for such a sad story
October 23rd, 2012  
Tragic and senseless. My heart goes out to both families.
October 23rd, 2012  
How devastating! So sad to hear about this.
October 23rd, 2012  
why do these things happen? so sad, so many touched , wishing the world was a safer place. What a fitting tribute you have captured. Their lives are now changed forever.....
October 23rd, 2012  
Oh I'm so sorry to hear about this. In England we had a little 5-yr old girl go missing... a chap has been arrested for her abduction and charged with murder but no body found yet. It makes you curl up inside and go cold, doesn't it. This is just beautiful. I hope it brings a touch of a smiley feeling to everyone involved.
October 23rd, 2012  
you have created a fine tribute with your photo and your story...
October 24th, 2012  
oh my that is a heartbreaking story! so sorry this happened, how sad for everyone involved....including you!
October 24th, 2012  
Tragic. Life is short and sometimes cruel. Emotional shot to remember it by
October 24th, 2012  
Lyn
Oh, heavens, Vicki. . .so sad. I can only hope the families find some healing grace in their lives. Thank you for a heartfelt view of something so close to home. . .
October 24th, 2012  
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