I'm not a sentimental person, but I don't very often get flowers - even on Mothering Sunday.
This year, I am on caring duty with my Dad, but I would not have been able to see my boys in any case due to ongoing lockdown restrictions.
Knowing I would be away, my youngest sent multiple bunches of tulips to my home last week, in time for me to enjoy before coming to Dads.
They were still at their priime, and so I gathered them up and brought them with me yesterday.
I also stopped to pick up more flowers - some for my Dad's neighbour who is struggling with mental health and lost her only daughter to suicide some years ago, and some to put on my Mum's grave.
Today, when I arrived at Mum's grave, the plant pot which we use for flowers was shattered into tiny pieces, and gravel spread everywhere. The decayed remains of flowers from a previous last visit were strewn in amongst the mess. It was such an upsetting sight to see. I had to return home with Mum's flowers as there was nowhere to put them. It felt so sad and neglectful to do so.
When I got back to Dad's there were more flowers on the doorstep. My older son had sent the most beautiful array - all flat packed and designed to fit in the letterbox.
I am surrounded by these acts of love and truly blessed. But what I would do for a plain, simple hug.
Beautiful.Fav😊. Sorry to hear about the mess at your mum's grave.,. Wish I could visit my mum's grave, but she is buried with dad, about 220 miles away.Although she passed away in a home near me,I felt it was only right to reunite her with dad
@carolmw my visit is only permissable as Dad needs 24 hr care and so my siblings and I have become his carers alongside a paid carer. We have been fortunate in this way to be with him in this last year as he deteriorates with cancer. So yes, I count my blessings as well as my sorrows. A couple of months, and you will be able to visit the grave - and yes I am sure it would be right for your Mum and Dad to be laid to rest in the same place.
My heart and thoughts go out to you. I often think about my parents' grave and wish it was closer to me because I know I'd be taking care of it. I don't think the sister who does live near it thinks that way- although she was the one who took care of our father until he passed (it all balances out in many ways). IF there is some way our loved ones know we are thinking of them, I'm sure your thought to put the flowers on your mother's grave has reached to heaven. There is a wonderful thread of love that ties your care for your mother's grave with flowers and the flowers your sons have sent. Let that love bring you comfort when sorrow threatens to take over.
They are such pretty flowers! I find tulips to be the perfect flower of renewal and optimism.
My heart goes out to you. So good that you have the love and support of your sons!
My heart goes out to you. So good that you have the love and support of your sons!