Buttons  by jewelsandbinoculars

Buttons

A slightly shell-shocked morning (the night having gone well for none of us) whilst JB & I tried to drink enough coffee to function. Then headed out to Jamie's Italian for lunch, in part because the highchairs are really good ones that let L get right up to the table to share in the meal, and had a rather average lunch whilst engaging in crisis talks re L's sleep. Cumulatively it's all been getting a bit much in the last week or two. Afterwards we continued talks whilst walking aimlessly up to Canonbury whilst L napped. Stopped for a while at the new river, watching a pair of moorhens weave reeds into their nest and speaking to my mum on the phone, them home via shops to pick up some dinner. L had garlicky mushrooms for tea, and obviously hasn't inherited my aversion to all things fungal because she seemed to love them. I had a bath and read for a bit, and L jumped in for a splash before bed, and I tried and failed to get her hair clean and untangled. She has one horn of hair at the back which works itself into a fuzzy sort of dreadlock, no matter what I do. Then I did bedtime whilst JB made dinner, and we managed L's too-frequent evening wakings with a cobbled-together combination of sleep training tactics – repeatedly going to her to calm/reassure her, but making sure we then left her again before she went back to sleep, so there were some points during the evening when she was crying and weren't in there with her. We both found it quite tough going: it made me feel sick and I cried too. But it felt like we'd reached a point of needing to do something.

Phone picture of random spilt buttons on the pavement, taken on the walk home from Canonbury down the Essex Road. I liked the colours and chaos against the grey.
Wow, the buttons were a lucky find. The sleep training is horrid to do. I am not particularly strong in such matters and also cried. Every minute between going in and reassuring mine seemed like an hour. But it does work, and although it seems like an age at the time, when you look back at it, it works remarkably quickly. I see the post is from a few days ago, so hopefully things are looking up now. Not that it has got the remotest thing to do with me, but I think you owe it to yourselves (all of you) to get it sorted.
June 18th, 2013  
First lovely random buttons, they look very pretty.
So sorry the night times are such hell...you must dread going to bed (if you ever get into bed!) I always say if you get sleep at night you can manage the daytime. Have you tried leaving the radio on quietly in her room so she doesn't feel alone..might help, it worked with our sons new pup!!!
June 18th, 2013  
ps, fav for the buttons, I love 'em
June 18th, 2013  
Love the buttons. Continued sympathy for the sleep issues.
June 18th, 2013  
Great little splashes of colour on the concrete and brick - nice find. I remember, even if it was a million years ago, that no matter who said what to me regarding getting my baby to sleep, none of it made any difference, so I won't attempt to offer any pearls of wisdom. I'll just offer sympathy and the (probably unabelievable at the moment) words -' it will get better eventually, so don't despair'. Positive and sympathetic vibes being sent your way.
June 18th, 2013  
Love these buttons, but why would anyone leave them? Clearly they don't have a beloved button box! I've given my "they smell weakness" opinion before, so well done for trying a technique you find hard. Better to crack it now before she can use words to really pack a punch!
June 18th, 2013  
Love the vintage feel to this photo
June 18th, 2013  
Oh love it, buttons good, fave.
June 18th, 2013  
JH
@jantan @happypat @suesmith @shweetheart @rachelwithey thanks for all the solidarity! It did/does feel like the right time for us. Until recently I didn't feel like her sleep was negatively affecting her, and/or me, enough to need to sleep train. Then it got worse, and that, combined with her being a bit older (but not old enough to stand/shout abuse at me!!) it made it an easier decision to go for it, if still not that easy to do. The difference in the evenings has been amazing after that one night alone, actually. We still have to work out a nighttime strategy (its really tricky when she's sleeping so close to me all night) but feels like things are definitely moving back in the right direction. *crosses fingers touches wood etc*
June 19th, 2013  
Instant fav for this gorgeous shot. The bright buttons against the grey of the pavement is wonderful. Keep at it with the sleep training. Remember you are doing this for her benefit and for yours, nobody functions well with lack of sleep! It will work but you need to reverse the habit you have got yourselves into, once L knows you always come back she'll feel secure and sleep without you there with her. Wishing you lots of luck, love and virtual hugs because even though it may be the right thing to do it doesn't make it easy xx
June 19th, 2013  
I love the "accidental" cheerfulness of this shot - it's nice that you find bright things to look on after such horrid nights. I keep posting picture of a sleeping J during the day because she catches up what she loses at night at the moment. It's probably not much comfort to you but all mothers at my playgroup (including me) have problems with sleeping at the moment because of the heat and because the babies have reached an age when they're too active for their own good at night. Keep going, she will sleep eventually but I'll hold my fingers crossed for you!
June 19th, 2013  
PS: Fav for me as well.
June 19th, 2013  
Fav - love the shot and love your stories too - although I'm way behind in them . Sleep deprivation is the universal form of torture. Is there any way you and your husband could sleep off boat for a night each? Just try and catch up with some zzzz. It is so tough going, none of mine were good sleepers and I totally sympathise with you. Good luck :) :)
June 20th, 2013  
Good find - poor buttons! We did sleep training with ours - hated it but it worked quite quickly. And then they'd get a cold or a tooth or learn to stand up and we'd have to do it all again but ultimately we got enough sleep to decide to do it all again!
June 22nd, 2013  
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