So I have a new filter I really like it.
The Black Promist 1/8 - It blooms lights instead of the harsher look. This filter also softens the image (I did do a lot of editing so you don't get the actual effect. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RjAQvK-Hyg
Love this selfie of you. Thanks for the links. I feel I am not smart enough to understand all of it, but I can see the differences the filters create. For someone like you who does so much portraiture I can see why you would be excited about it.