independent by summerfield

independent

the task at hand is to tell you why i love myself. having been brought up in a culture where you need to wait to be praised and be damned if you don't get it, this is a little difficult for me.

i think sometimes to my own detriment, i am too independent. but, as the oldest girl in a brood of six of very poor parents, i was left in charge (along with the bully big brother) whilst our parents earned a living. so i learned a lot of things on my own or with very little supervision - cooking, cleaning, bathing the little 'uns and the darn dog, washing clothes. and because sometimes i wanted to get away from it all, i learned to love being alone or do things on my own. i learned at an early age to make my own decisions for myself. like announcing to my parents at age seven that i am not ever going to marry or have children. of course, i got a good beating for saying that because i was told i was too young to think of such things. but try taking care of four small rascals and a big one and you'd get to the same conclusion.

but i do listen to and consider the advice and opinions of people i respect. when i want to. if it's for the greater good of all. especially me.
Fabulous capture Vikki. Wonderful lighting and bokeh! Being independent can be a good quality at the right time. you sure had a lot on your plate growing up and I am sure that molded you into who you are today.
November 4th, 2012  
Just love this! Although I come from a very small family I like nothing better than to be alone. Guess that's not strictly true as usually I have my dogs with me as company!
November 4th, 2012  
Beautiful shot. Lovely light and love the dynamic angle.
November 4th, 2012  
Fav! Nice words, I can totally relate
November 4th, 2012  
Such a simple and pretty shot. very nice. As for your caption, I did not have to read it to know you are a very independent woman.. Many times, children that are brought up in homes like yours, become survivors and very successful. You should be very proud of yourself.
November 4th, 2012  
Gorgeous capture of the light through the petals :)
November 4th, 2012  
I like this a lot. Independence is a good trait to have. Good job!
November 4th, 2012  
@pamfromcalgary - thank you, pam. it is both a blessing and a curse, sometimes. but most times it is a blessing for me. partner doesn't always like it though. :-)
November 4th, 2012  
@salza - thank you, sally. these days it's just me and my camera but i do let partner tag along sometimes. :-)
November 4th, 2012  
@netkonnexion - thank you, damon. early morning sun, by murky waters, and cranked up ISO.
November 4th, 2012  
@daveanajao - dave, a double thank you.
November 4th, 2012  
@sarasdadandmom - aww, you're so sweet, terry. thank you.
November 4th, 2012  
@alia_801 - thank you, alia. i'm surprised that even with a cranked up ISO there's hardly a noise in the shot. but i shot it in and converted it from raw so maybe that's the secret!
November 4th, 2012  
@dmortega - thank you, dorrena. much appreciated.
November 4th, 2012  
This is very nice. Awesome bokeh
November 4th, 2012  
@abhijit - thank you, ab.
November 4th, 2012  
fav for me, this is lovely shot. And I can relate on being independent, had to do that an early age as well. For me growing out with out both parents is not easy, had to learn to be independent and grow up quickly.
November 4th, 2012  
after the messes of life, it was a revelation to me that i was worthy. i'm both independent and dependent, which sounds contradictory but really isn't ! what an adventure life is.....
your photo tells a story
November 4th, 2012  
Beautiful shot Vikki; as children we have to play the cards we are dealt, sounds like you had a tough hand. It has shaped you into the person you are now and that can't be bad can it?
November 4th, 2012  
I meant growing up :)
November 4th, 2012  
So beautiful, lovely bokeh !
November 4th, 2012  
@cottoncandy - thank you, mischell. but you've got to admit, independent is good most of the time, right?
November 5th, 2012  
@eniaral - thank you, laraine. being independent doesn't mean we don't need anyone.
November 5th, 2012  
@claireuk - thank you, claire. yeah, it's like scrabble, i get all the lousy tiles with the letter Q! :-)
November 5th, 2012  
@stephaniedc - thank you, stephanie. much appreciated.
November 5th, 2012  
I tend to be independent too- drives poor hubby a bit crazy at times! I get lots of Q's too- but as long as there's a U along with it, one can make a word- or make one up- another trait of being independent.
November 8th, 2012  
Beautiful! YOU and the flower!
November 11th, 2012  
@olivetreeann - i have someone around me here, whose name shall never be mentioned, who is such a cheater when it comes to scrabble and makes up words when he gets the Q. hahaha. thank you, ann.
November 17th, 2012  
@cscecil - thank you, CS. much appreciated.
November 17th, 2012  
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