thankful for the people who touched my life #1 by summerfield

thankful for the people who touched my life #1

my family

our family - our parents and siblings - are the very first people to contribute something to our life. our parents gave us our lives, nurtured us from the start, taught us to become God-fearing, law-abiding citizens, respectful people, and become independent, without the expectation of a payback. my mother once said that we pay them back by being good people and nurturing our future families. and then there are our siblings - well some of them are there to torture us and others are there to just plain be pesky and annoying. but we love them all, including their little faults.

my parents made sure we have our feet firmly on the ground. we were taught humility, respect, courtesy, industry, honesty and they instilled in me and my siblings the importance of education. having had very little education themselves (my father didn't finish grade 6 due to poverty and my mother didn't finish grade 4 due to poverty and the second world war) it was important to them that we value education and made us realize how lucky we are that we can go to school. when we so much as veered towards laziness with our studies we are told of the hardship and the prejudice they experienced because they were considered illiterates.

illiterates they weren't. my mother taught us to read and write in english by the time we reached the age of four (except for our youngest who was considered 'retarded' at the time but the tradition of teaching him still started at four, just that the success didn't come till three years later than usual). she could read and write english and can carry on good conversation when forced to. my father built radios and stereos from scratch, and even built my mother a television made of recycled parts from different brands, as well as a refrigerator, the motor of which he painstakingly re-wired, all from just reading manuals and magazine how-to's.

my older brother and i had this sibling rivalry because my father favoured him (he's the first born and a boy, why not?), so i had to better him in every aspect of our young lives (i won all the time, of course :-) i think that's how my competitive spirit got honed!). and of course, being the oldest girl, i had to be a role model (hahaha!) to my three younger sisters (yaiks!) and, after my mother died, became the mother figure to our younger siblings.

we all grew up with different values from just one set of parents. we faced poverty by ourselves sans help from relatives, and we are very proud of that. in fact, we had a late aunt who introduced us to her husband (when they visited canada several years ago) as "my successful nieces and nephews who never asked even for one cent from us"; her husband having met some of our relatives, couldn't believe that we were more closely related to her than the other relatives who were always asking for help and handouts.

so i am grateful and thankful for my family and if i were to live my life again, i hope they'd be my family again, then i know how to exact revenge on... oooops, no, sorry, i strayed there for a while... kidding aside, they are my favourite family in the whole wide world even though they piss me off a lot of the time.

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I love it, that you have such close family ties. I am not so fortunate. What a blessing.
November 3rd, 2012  
@sarasdadandmom - thank you, terry.
November 3rd, 2012  
Vikki! What a story ! I knew some of this already. Your parents were great role models and worked so hard! No wonder you are so smart and hard working!
November 3rd, 2012  
@espyetta - hi, MB. why, thank you. i was just thinking of you today.
November 3rd, 2012  
What a beautiful way to remember your family, such a great tribute to your parents! A school education doesn't mean that you smart. Living your life as best you are able is one of the best educations you can ever receive.
November 3rd, 2012  
beautiful words. lovely collage
November 3rd, 2012  
Lovely capture of your special family :)
November 3rd, 2012  
@salza - thank you, sally. my mother also instilled in us that being smart in school does not mean you will be smart in life. and that schooled is not the same as educated.
November 3rd, 2012  
@abhijit - thank you, ab.
November 3rd, 2012  
@alia_801 - thank you, alia.
November 3rd, 2012  
Lovely way to show the love for your family. Lovey and touching narrative.
November 3rd, 2012  
thanks for sharing .. what a great family
November 4th, 2012  
@henrir - thank you, henri.

@lesip - thank you, leslie.
November 4th, 2012  
A very moving and emotional account; I felt every word:0)
November 4th, 2012  
beautiful and inspiring. wonderful photos, too.
November 6th, 2012  
@claireuk - thank you, claire.
November 6th, 2012  
@catsmeowb - thank you, camille. so glad you're back. take it easy, friend.
November 6th, 2012  
@summerfield i really understand this photo. last night, malcolm and i cancelled my computer order. bummed but understand. we are going shopping this weekend with jay and jay to get something else. don't know why, today, this thing cooperated. maybe because i got so much onto my external drive yesterday. don't know, don't care, will just take advantage.
November 6th, 2012  
What a fine tribute to your family! You had great parents- and if I'd met them I think I would have recognized immediately their "smartness" both in life and learning. They gave you things of far greater worth than anything money can buy.
November 8th, 2012  
@olivetreeann - thank you, ann. they did. my father and i never got along when i was young. but in 2003 when i visited to interview him, i told him that i am in fact very thankful that he was very strict with us and that made us do very well. he just smiled, got up and went to the kitchen. my youngest brother told me, "i think you just made him cry. for someone who is so proud like him, it's nice that you acknowledge what he's contributed to this family." so i gave my brother a whack on the arm.
November 17th, 2012  
Thank you for sharing.
October 12th, 2013  
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