The woman I spoke about here... Passed away recently... After I had visited her in the hospital that day, she'd been moved to hospice. Her prognosis was not good -- less than two months. Reflecting on her life today...honoring her memory.
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I've realized I've been experiencing some anticipatory grief about my own father's illness. I've gone through some acceptance. Sadness. Right now I'm kind of in the bargaining stage of grief. Figured this out with a friend of mine who also happens to be a mental health counselor. We often "therapize" ourselves. Maybe to our own detriment....
I don't know if, when the time comes, I'll be prepared to say goodbye to my dad. I don't know if I ever will be... But I'll just get through it...because I'll have no choice. And it's gonna happen. Could be a year from now. If his treatment helps could even be ten years from now. But it's gonna happen.
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Still dealing with my own health issues. Some test results came back ok. So that's good. Waiting for some more results...
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Girls night out again tonight. I still can't drink alcohol but I so would love a whole bottle of wine or a six pack of beer. ALL TO MYSELF. Lol.
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And speaking of goodbyes...I've decided that my 500th pic will be my final farewell here. And it could happen in the next 54 days or over the next few months or a pic a week for the next 54 weeks. Who knows. Though I doubt I want to be here for another year. I think it will be time for my departure by then. And I just feel like I want to close the project on an even number. 500 sounds like a good one.
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Pic taken last weekend at 18th & 5th Avenue. Lived around the corner from here back in the day. Weather is shitty and windy in Manhattan today. Happy Friday.
I read your commentary Ms T, and I had a flashback to the movie "Flatliners". And please don't think I am trivialising what you have written because that is definitely not my intention. You are probably too young to remember it (it was early 1990's vintage with Kiefer Sutherland and Julia Roberts). But it was a really thought provoking movie about life and death and whether we are in a better place here, or on the other side. Even for an atheist! And Julia Roberts played a part that was in a profession similar to yours, who took it really hard when one of her patients passed away.... Anyway, now I feel bad, because you can't drink, and its late Friday here and I'm probably rambling because I HAVE had a few drinks lol...
@tomtom thanks for your comment, Andrew! And I didn't think that your comment was trivializing my commentary. I did see Flatliners actually. Maybe even in the movie theater. I'm not THAT young lol. Thank you for your thoughts. And drink a few more for me hahaha. If I can't have one, someone else should! ;)
;) Chin up buttercup, we're all just travelers here and I enjoy experiencing the journey with you! 500's a good number! Fave for the shot, and the feels.
@mats365 indeed therapizing with friends is good! :). Thanks for the comment!
@grizzlysghost a fave from you is like a cherry on a sundae! ;) and my doc didn't order me not to have those lol. Thanks, Aaron! And I think 500 is a good solid number too.
Amazing perspective and edit. Sorry about all the sad, out of your control issues. I certainly can relate to that and the wine but I love a rainy NYC day.
@brianarmoured thanks for your nice comment. :) Sometimes I like getting caught in the rain...it can feel good. But I hate if I get caught in it unprepared, especially in a sudden downpour.
Most creative capture, perfect reflection and intriguing POV. The decision to stop after your 500th is understood but your written reflections will be sorely missed. Wish you a speedy recovery from all that ails you.
@kjarn thanks, Kathy! I do think whenever I reach 500, it'll be time for me to go. It is possible I may change my mind. But I don't think so. I'll miss the people, for sure.
June 9th, 2014
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Super reflection. And good post - makes me think of my favorite poem. You learn and you learn and you learn. With every goodbye you learn.
P.S. Can I call you captain? Cap'n? Cappy? Lol.
@philipmad1 thanks for the fave! Made my day :)
@grizzlysghost a fave from you is like a cherry on a sundae! ;) and my doc didn't order me not to have those lol. Thanks, Aaron! And I think 500 is a good solid number too.
@tonydebont always appreciate your kind comments, Tony. Also thanks for your well wishes.