Today, I was showered with some lotion I like, an "As Seen on TV" product I think is hilarious (and right up my alley--mmmmm, Baaaaacon!), Krispy Kreme donuts, an opportunity to use our new waffle iron (notice I'm making them), and nice notes and....some mayonnaise (yes, my youngest thought that would be so funny to take the mayo out of the fridge and wrap it up). I love my girls--so wacky--so fun.
We have spent the day making bacon bowls, playing board games, and going bowling. We saw other folks out with their moms, enjoying just ONE day of harmony amongst kids and their parents--or so the idea goes.
I'm reminded that mother's day is not always a fun day for some folks. A myriad of reasons for it: loss, lack, bad, distant, never desired it. It's complicated. Mothering and being mothered is not something as easy as one might think, and I know that I've been all over the place about my own mothering skills (for example, I took my teen to a totally inappropriate film yesterday out of sheer ignorance and not doing my research first, and I also did not get to my kid who arrived early from a school field trip and neither did my husband, so she walked home...in the rain). Talk about taking the bad-mother-of-the-year crown (again) the day before Mother's Day.
I have an amazing mother--she's
@shunter on here. Her mother was amazing. My husband lost his mother Christmas Eve of 2013. I have had friends who have lost their mothers recently, and I have friends who never really had mothers, and then I know friends who lost their children. Some mothers, like myself, struggle to really define just what exactly is this mothering thing supposed to be, and if we are trying to meet others' expectations of the roles or we're perfectly fine and just never know it.
But me, today, I wanted some coffee, some lotion, and a Perfect Bacon Bowl kit. I got it all.
Happy Mother's Day to those who celebrate it. And for those who can't, don't, won't--I understand. I really do.
