Check it out. Plus he mentioned a few days ago he had some crazy work schedule at some point this week...and I'm hoping things have calmed down for him.
So I know there's a thread in the discussion boards about this kind of thing for posting your fav of the week. But, well, I don't do discussions or tagging or themes. Also the title of the thread perplexes me a bit. Says it's your favorite fav of someone else. I originally thought this meant, look at the faves of someone else and pick one you like the most. But it's really pick a favorite fave of your own, right? Because, I mean...all your favs are of someone else's work. Seems redundant to say it's your fave fav of someone else. Anyway maybe that's just how my mind works or doesn't work lol.
My coffee dude had my coffee ready today even before I stepped up to the counter. There were a few people in front of me already. One woman scowled. I felt bad. I didn't ask for this. And I actually just try to wait until everyone gets their order before grabbing my coffee and paying. But my dude often motions for me to come forward. Maybe I won't go back there for a few days.
Anyway I was thinking about Favs and compliments. Maybe I'm stingy with them here. But in my life outside of the virtual existence, I actually like to compliment people a lot. I don't give them insincerely though. And I honestly never do it to get one in return.
There is an art to giving a good compliment that involves timing, sincerity, and personalization.
What's the best compliment you've given someone? The best you've received?
Compliment someone today. And mean it. You might bring a smile to their face :)
Receiving a "follow" from me is the best compliment I can imagine giving anyone on 365. That shit's gold!
Seriously though, the best compliments I ever receive concern how I've raised my son. He can take pride in being the awesome person he is, and I can take pride in guiding him toward that end. And the best compliment I've ever GIVEN? Hmmm.... ..... .... see above. ;-)
Some interesting thoughts as usual Ms. T. I can relate to the darn escalators being a mass transit rat...lol As for the compliments, right off I can tell you two that I have received which I was very taken by. The first was as youngster when my guidence counselor said that I can talk my way out of a paper bag. High praise! I don't think he meant it as a compliment though :)
The other wonderful compliment was that I am an inspiration. That's heavy. I take that seriously and am moved by such a gesture. The person who said it is a very highly trained/educated physician whom I have the utmost respect. I thought it odd how I can inspire her! Wonderful. Compliments given...When I say to someone, I trust you.
@grizzlysghost that must be an awesome compliment to get regarding how you raise your son. It is a reflection of who you are. Must be very rewarding to hear that kind of thing.
I digress with some personal disclosure. I don't have children...yet. I actually never thought seriously about kids until the last two years. And the window of opportunity is closing in on me for it to happen naturally and not through adoption. Maybe it'll happen. Maybe not. I don't consider myself a very nurturing and motherly person actually. But two of the best compliments I recently received was from a coworker and client on separate occasions. Both said they thought I would make an awesome mother. Which was really a surprise and very nice to say. So I can only imagine if I had a kid and someone told me that I've done something right. Must be one of the nicest things to hear.
Cool pic. I'd have guessed it was the subway not staples. Tricked me, T. Ya tricked me.
Best compliment I've given? Every damn one! Because a compliment from me comes from the heart!
Best compliment I've ever gotten? Lucky to say that there've been some good ones! Few that stand out - a stranger told me I made his day when he saw me smile. Wasn't smiling at him. Didn't even realize I was smiling at the time.
And being told "I trust you" by a boss at work. Such validation. She's a very tough critic. Worked my ass off to get her to recognize my efforts! It changed our relationship dramatically.
And my boyfriend says I make the best tea. Swoon! Lol. Doesn't take much.
@adamj I totally hear you on one of the best compliments can be "I trust you." For some reason when I read that part of your comment, I got a little choked up. I don't take someone's trust lightly at all and when I'm told that someone trusts me, I feel so honored and sometimes intimidated. It's a responsibility, really. I consider "I love you" to be a great compliment too. I don't drop the "L" bomb easily. Took a year of dating for me to return that sentiment to the husband.
Also high praise for being called an inspiration. You've inspired me, Adam. To up my fitness game.
@snaphappy1 it does look like subway escalators, doesn't it? That was a nice compliment to get about your smile :)
How come you've never made me your tea? Lol. One of the best compliments I've gotten from the husband was, "I believe in you and have faith in you." Another one was the other day. As you know sis, how critical your brother-in-law is and doesn't give out compliments freely. He called me his "cute little wife." Lol I was so happy. Doesn't take much for me either.
@adamj p.s. I do realize you were not saying that you actually trust me lol. I was just re-reading my comment to yours and it came out sounding like I was responding to some indication that you trust ME. It's hard for me to say those words or even hear them said to me for various reasons. It's something I work on and work through.
@snaphappy1 well I'm coming over Saturday lol. Make me tea then?
Yes it meant a lot to us both. Also one of the best superficial comments I've gotten was from a female about my ass. I'll try to be as PC as possible when I say this lol. But some ethnic communities appreciate the derrière more than others. She was a member of one such community. She said to me once at a party that I had a "nice little booty" and she thought I would be "flat as a board back there". Best compliment ever. Lol.
One of the best compliments I can give is telling someone they are funny/make me laugh/smile. If someone can't do one of those things for me...we likely won't have a friendship.
@fauxtography365 Thank you very kindly for your heartfelt response. I relate to your feelings on trust and love. There are varying levels of trust of course. You can trust your friend with your secrets. You can trust your lover with your emotions. You can trust your doctor to do a good job etc. I appreciate you telling me that I have helped a bit with the fitness advise. By the way I do trust you.
I think the best compliments are the ones that come from the most unexpected people…especially if those people mean a lot to you. I had one recently from a former boss that meant a lot to me.
A younger coworker recently told me I was the best dressed in the office, which was pretty damn cool.
What is the best compliment I have given? I have no idea! I think compliments from strangers are pretty cool, so if I see someone with a cute haircut or I like something they are wearing I will usually tell them so. Well, if I am in a good mood. LOL.
Cool processing on the pic! Your 365 project shows how talented and creative you are! (Like how I threw a compliment in? haha) Have a good weekend!
@islandk8 yes I agree with you when compliments come unexpectedly. It's like a little gift. And thanks for your kind words about my project. It means a lot! Also I think you're a pretty swell dresser too :)
Interesting discussion, and one that I can't quite get my words right to say how I use compliments or receive compliments. My job has taught me to say 'thank you' and then explain its a team effort and it has also taught me as the boss to accept any criticism and then work the other shit out later.
I like how you say you don't enter the discussion threads, yet often your photographs encourage quite a discussion on their own...
@bobfoto actually you bring up an interesting piece to this discussion which I didn't really talk about. How to accept compliments. And criticisms too. There's a lot to ponder there. When I was younger I didn't know how to accept a compliment. As for criticism... I have also gotten better at giving and getting it. Sometimes those are the things that - for me - have made me better and stronger. So I learn to embrace them with courage. Not always nice to hear but I don't want someone blowin sunshine up my ass and I never really know what I can do to become a better person.
Yeah I guess my photos and stir up discussion... Yet I don't partake in discussion boards. Ha. Maybe I'm a paradox.
@snaphappy1 p.s. One of the best compliments you ever gave me was when you said that I really helped you when you were going through a breakup with your ex. It wasn't what you said...it was how you said it. We never realize the impact of what we do on others until it's reflected back like that... You might have thought I helped you...but you really helped me.
@fauxtography365 - well said. I work for the government and I get a little peeved that it sometimes feel that their only mantra is to avoid criticism at all cost. I think that is a weak approach to delivering a service charter. I see more strength in a business model that aims not to receive criticism but also places itself in a strong position to deal with critics. I read into the History of my work and have seen documents from 75 years ago that say "this is how we do things, end of story. Go away". We cannot say these things anymore, it all has to be tip-toed around and avoided at all cost.
@bobfoto I can't imagine working in an environment where you're walking on eggshells like that. People often assume criticism will always have a negative result and that's simply not true. There is a time and place for criticism to be given and well-received, I think. But people aren't comfortable with it. Other people respond really well to hearing what they can do better or what they lack. Also some people offer a negative opinion just to be negative. To me that's not criticism. But some people think it is. It's just being flat out negative. I don't know if I'm making sense...
You've done it again, you post an image and start one of those deep and meaningful discussions. I'm amazed at how you find a simple topic that gets so much reaction. That whole issue of complements and criticism was huge when I was on the Help Desk of a computer company. Customer complaints were almost a death sentence and written complements were a guaranteed bonus. Certainly caused me some headaches as I tend to be intolerant of fools.
Great discussion, congratulations.
Very interesting discussion. I'm finding it hard to even think about the giving and receiving of compliments as there's so much negativity in my life. Just getting a thank you at work or an I Love You from the grandkids makes my day.
@tonydebont thanks, Tony. I can understand what you mean about fielding customer complaints. Something that I experience on my work that's somewhat similar is when we get audited by the department of health and department of mental health. All they ever have is criticisms and never any solutions to what the deem as "problems". While I kinda dread those visits because it often makes us all at work feel like we work so freakin hard with very very very sick and difficult people and get no commendations. However, I've decided to change my attitude about it and use those visits as improvement experiments. I know that it helps me keep setting the bar higher and higher for myself. They're never gonna pat us on the back...but if I can get them off our backs, I feel that's just as good as any compliment or accolade.
@kjarn thanks, Kathy... You've pointed out that it is the little things that count just as much. There can be so much negativity in the world. A little positivity can go along way, really. A simple thank you can make a difference.
@tosee that is a wonderful compliment to get. When someone loves and accepts us for who we are and how we are and doesn't want is to change a damn thing? I mean, what more can one ask for? :)
I like a lot of pictures that I see, but I don't fav many. Not really sure why. Maybe because I don't reference them much afterwards, so why bother?
I get a lot of compliments on my kids and those make me pretty proud. I get a lot of compliments on my work, but I take ownership on the trees/shrubs/landscapes I work on, treating them as if they are my own. I am my toughest self critic, so if I think I could have done better, the thanks and praise isn't as meaningful for me, although I am thankful. The best praise I can receive, is when I have done something I feel good about and someone else recognizes it.
I tend to be stingy with praise too, because I don't think it's helpful giving praise to ordinary things. I do offer encouragement and when I do praise something, I mean it and it has meaning.
@baznman thanks for contributing to the discussion. I find this am interesting exercise in realizing how people use or respond to praise or critique. I'm my own worst critic too. And I also don't think it's helpful giving praise to ordinary things either. It almost irks me when I see it happen.
The best compliment I ever had was when a sculptor offered to buy a piece of my art..........I'm not good at taking a compliment so I'm not good at giving one........an example of what I'm like.......someone compliments something I wear and instead of just saying 'thank you' I start into a ramble about how it was just something I threw on or I've had this for ages! I think I need to practise giving more compliments and just accepting them!!!!!
@greenpeg That's an awesome compliment to get - wanting someone to buy your art. I think accepting or giving compliments is something we can all strive to do better. Thanks for sharing! :)
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Seriously though, the best compliments I ever receive concern how I've raised my son. He can take pride in being the awesome person he is, and I can take pride in guiding him toward that end. And the best compliment I've ever GIVEN? Hmmm.... ..... .... see above. ;-)
The other wonderful compliment was that I am an inspiration. That's heavy. I take that seriously and am moved by such a gesture. The person who said it is a very highly trained/educated physician whom I have the utmost respect. I thought it odd how I can inspire her! Wonderful. Compliments given...When I say to someone, I trust you.
I digress with some personal disclosure. I don't have children...yet. I actually never thought seriously about kids until the last two years. And the window of opportunity is closing in on me for it to happen naturally and not through adoption. Maybe it'll happen. Maybe not. I don't consider myself a very nurturing and motherly person actually. But two of the best compliments I recently received was from a coworker and client on separate occasions. Both said they thought I would make an awesome mother. Which was really a surprise and very nice to say. So I can only imagine if I had a kid and someone told me that I've done something right. Must be one of the nicest things to hear.
Best compliment I've given? Every damn one! Because a compliment from me comes from the heart!
Best compliment I've ever gotten? Lucky to say that there've been some good ones! Few that stand out - a stranger told me I made his day when he saw me smile. Wasn't smiling at him. Didn't even realize I was smiling at the time.
And being told "I trust you" by a boss at work. Such validation. She's a very tough critic. Worked my ass off to get her to recognize my efforts! It changed our relationship dramatically.
And my boyfriend says I make the best tea. Swoon! Lol. Doesn't take much.
Also high praise for being called an inspiration. You've inspired me, Adam. To up my fitness game.
How come you've never made me your tea? Lol. One of the best compliments I've gotten from the husband was, "I believe in you and have faith in you." Another one was the other day. As you know sis, how critical your brother-in-law is and doesn't give out compliments freely. He called me his "cute little wife." Lol I was so happy. Doesn't take much for me either.
That's so nice! No, your hubs isn't the most liberal with the comps so I know it meant a lot - to him and you both!
Yes it meant a lot to us both. Also one of the best superficial comments I've gotten was from a female about my ass. I'll try to be as PC as possible when I say this lol. But some ethnic communities appreciate the derrière more than others. She was a member of one such community. She said to me once at a party that I had a "nice little booty" and she thought I would be "flat as a board back there". Best compliment ever. Lol.
One of the best compliments I can give is telling someone they are funny/make me laugh/smile. If someone can't do one of those things for me...we likely won't have a friendship.
A younger coworker recently told me I was the best dressed in the office, which was pretty damn cool.
What is the best compliment I have given? I have no idea! I think compliments from strangers are pretty cool, so if I see someone with a cute haircut or I like something they are wearing I will usually tell them so. Well, if I am in a good mood. LOL.
Cool processing on the pic! Your 365 project shows how talented and creative you are! (Like how I threw a compliment in? haha) Have a good weekend!
I like how you say you don't enter the discussion threads, yet often your photographs encourage quite a discussion on their own...
Yeah I guess my photos and stir up discussion... Yet I don't partake in discussion boards. Ha. Maybe I'm a paradox.
We've become vanilla soft.
Great discussion, congratulations.
@kjarn thanks, Kathy... You've pointed out that it is the little things that count just as much. There can be so much negativity in the world. A little positivity can go along way, really. A simple thank you can make a difference.
I get a lot of compliments on my kids and those make me pretty proud. I get a lot of compliments on my work, but I take ownership on the trees/shrubs/landscapes I work on, treating them as if they are my own. I am my toughest self critic, so if I think I could have done better, the thanks and praise isn't as meaningful for me, although I am thankful. The best praise I can receive, is when I have done something I feel good about and someone else recognizes it.
I tend to be stingy with praise too, because I don't think it's helpful giving praise to ordinary things. I do offer encouragement and when I do praise something, I mean it and it has meaning.