This is an old, photo, obviously I didn't take it, as I was The Red haired Dixie with a Pixie-cut just a few months short of my 5th birthday
My parents had me and then were told my Mom had had an early (age 24) menopause and she cold not have another child. So I was an only child until I was almost 5 when we brought home the 6 month old baby boy who was my newly adopted brother, Brett.
Thanks to that miracle, and the fact that my husband's Mother and both her siblings were adopted, and so were several of my cousins, I was very open to the idea of adoption, so after my own marriage of 10 years produced no children, I was delighted to adopt my first son. Then kind of freaked to find that I was pregnant even before the adoption was final, but that was kind of a tradition too, as my adopted brother ended up being a middle child when 8 years later , my mom's ulcer had a heartbeat and she found out that she was 5 month's pregnant with our baby brother, Lance
Wonderful story! My parents came close to adopting twice. Halfway through the process they discovered I was on the way. After I was born the social worker called and asked if the wanted to start the process again.....well, no they said. My mom was preggers again with my sister. I've heard that just "thinking about adoption" will result in pregancy!
Great photo and fab story. I had a neighbour years ago who adopted a baby boy and found she was pregnant as the process was ending so the boys are 11 months apart in age!!! Great though!
@gizathecat@georgews@sarah19 When we adopted, I found out that i was pregnant when I took Austin in for his 6 month check-up. Then Emerson came 2 months early, so they are just a year apart. The adoption agency placed children in 12 homes that year, and 4 of us were pregnant by the end of the year. How many dozen infertile couples just get pregnant after years of trying? 25% of the population?
I have a girlfriend as well that adopted and within two years was pregnant too...even though they said she was infertile! Crazy! but miracles happen in the strangest ways!! Super story of your life's miracles!!
such a wonderful photo to accompany a beautiful story. where i grew up, being adopted seemed to be a stigma, as they seem to be treated unfairly because they're not actually part of the family. i raised my sister's son from childbirth, but maybe because he knew from the start who his real mother was, he sees me only as someone who raised him. he craves for the acceptance of his mother who left and gave him up and accepted that i am her son's mother. until he resolves that within himself, i seriously doubt he'll find peace and contentment. as a mother that's all i can wish for him at this stage. thank you for sharing your story, dixie. it feels good to find kindred spirits.
@summerfield When my parents adopted my grandfather wouldn't talk to them for six months because he said they were bing oils, bringing somebody's rejects into the family. it was an issue he had to come to terms with, and my brother never knew anyone from his birth family, totally a closed adoption and he was told when he was young, but then it didn't seem important so no-one mentioned it much and again when he was about 10 someone said something and he was shocked, he hadn't remembered ever hearing he was adopted. With my oldest, it was an open adoption so she handed him to me in the hospital at 14 hours old and sent regular letters and pictures, so he always knew, and he flew to meet her and his 4 sisters when he was 17 for spring break. So he only had questions about his Birth father and met him at 19. That helped I think, no sense ever that he had been unloved, just that she was too young, and had already had one baby so knew she couldn't give two what they needed, but she wanted to see him and loved him. So now he frequently tries to reassure me and my husband, "you are my real parents" and it's Ok, we know that!
Beautiful story Dixie! I had always wanted to adopt a girl, but my husband was always afraid we would not be able to provide for 3 children, so it never happened. But I've always been a major supporter of adopting and have an adopted nephew- plus two young girls we've "adopted" as grandchildren at church. As far as the adoption/pregnancy connection goes, we personally had a close friend where that happened. Her explanation was that she'd get so tense trying to get pregnant that she couldn't. But when she gave up and went on to adopt, she was no longer stressed and therefore relaxed enough to conceive. So, by the time the adopted baby arrived, so did the conceived one- it was like having twins!
November 8th, 2012
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