Seeking input: I took some photos at the wake, after family and others were gone and with permission of family and mortuary. I am struggling a little now about posting them....what do you think? You can't identify the deseased or the family, but still....interesting dilemma. What do you think?
I ended up having a strange day at my father's funeral, took photos on the phone and ended up posting them, not as photography but it depends on the people, your relationship to them and how they feel...
Something along the lines of would like the pictures from the wake might be a good way of asking...
As far as the subject goes it's tricky, I do some work with cruse bereavement care here, doing conferences, panels and helping train counsellors, it is very much dependant on the people who care/matter (in relation to the deceased) and the deceased themselves, essentially it boils down to what they think he/she would've wanted...
Hope that helped a little... There's no right answer, morally and otherwise you could post them but knowing can ease a conscientious decision...
Personally, i have only one big-deal phobia...i am afraid of human mortal remains, specially if they are in caskets. Even if there are deaths in the family, I don't look at the deceased. Because if I take a peek at their faces, their eyes suddenly open once I close mine. Necrophobia is weird, specially my brand of it.
If you do post pictures like that, I think it's best if you put sort of a "spoiler alert" on the title. :D
While I tend to usually lean on the side of slight uptightness about what to share and not share (i.e. kids, personal moments), for some reason I think you most likely did this in a very loving way that I think it does not cross a moral line. You also tend to have a sensitivity to your photos that I can imagine everything to be meaningful, poignent and tasteful
This was a family member and someone that you knew, cared for and loved. You waited till all of the mourners had left so that you could take photos that did not objectify or glorify anything, but that marked a significant milestone in your life also. These photos are also part of your bereavement process and while you are graciously concerned about what others may think, you need to focus on what is right for you and your family. You may want to ask the other family members if they mind, because you want to honor his life and that this is your way. If they do not mind, nobody else on here should mind.
Do what you think is right and not what others that did not know him will think. I fully agree with what @killerjackalope says that you shoudl think about what the deceased would want.
Sorry, needed to get the link. I lost a good friend and a close co-worker a few weeks back and I posted this in honor of him. It was something that most represented him and a way I feel I could honor and remember and cherish him.
I recently attended my partner's fathers funeral and did have my camera to hand. I only used it after we had left the service and the wake was over but the photos I took were still during the same day, which felt like a whole experience. I posted a few of them after discussing it with my partner as it felt like a kind of tribute to her father even if only tenuously. But obviously this is a very subjective thing.
Grandma died this Monday just gone, her brother lives in England.. and we are here in the States..
He wants photos of the funeral or service and wake if we have one...
Some people will tell you NO. some will say, do it with respect and dignity .
I say you know the person/s - family involved , and you know how they will react if those photos are made public..
I think more toward the future.. far into the future. and what / how we will be burying our dead then?
Sometimes its about preserving our past too...
I love looking at photos from 100 years ago... so that another way to look at it...
My brothers MIL died suddenly this year and per her religious beliefs was buried very quickly. She was a very experienced traveller (I prefer adventurer - she was amazing) and save for a handful of people here in Australia, all of her family and friends live overseas. Another relative and I took photo's of the whole day, and compiled a digital album, set with music from the funeral. It was hard and confronting and it was also very special and I felt privileged. The wake shots were wonderful, and to be honest they look very much like any other celebration. And this is exactly what it was . A celebration of a life very well lived.
we all die ppl post a lot of things other ppl find offensive and will argue they are right you are wrong.ie naked kids and atuff and then whinge about piedos and pervs ..if they dont like it dont look at it your choice..i wouldnt want me dead posted but thats me ..
@killerjackalope@rich57@gavincci@notliz@brumbe and others - what I love about 365 is the dversity of not only images but thoughts and feelings. I appreciate them all. I will probably post one image when I get home over the weekend, can't offload the camera right now. No need for spolier alert @nellycious - should be okay. In the end, I know that this project is for me to express myself in ways I can't verbalize or explain, but want to express nevertheless. I know someone will let me know if it's in poor form, and I will be OK with that.
@emsabh I actually see no problem with it, but then again I'm a photojournalist. It is my job to shoot the photos that tell the story of human life.
Right now, I am trying to get a project going to photograph a mortician performing his job. As you might imagine, I am finding it very difficult to secure permission. But I'm shooting the photos because people die, and it's the cycle of life.
I would say...post them. Show us that cycle of life. Then go shoot photos of a puppy.
@jasonbarnette Took you thought of puppies and took a quick one of my niece, who had that all-happy smile that made me feel a wee bit better; the cycle continues....
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I ended up having a strange day at my father's funeral, took photos on the phone and ended up posting them, not as photography but it depends on the people, your relationship to them and how they feel...
Something along the lines of would like the pictures from the wake might be a good way of asking...
As far as the subject goes it's tricky, I do some work with cruse bereavement care here, doing conferences, panels and helping train counsellors, it is very much dependant on the people who care/matter (in relation to the deceased) and the deceased themselves, essentially it boils down to what they think he/she would've wanted...
Hope that helped a little... There's no right answer, morally and otherwise you could post them but knowing can ease a conscientious decision...
If you do post pictures like that, I think it's best if you put sort of a "spoiler alert" on the title. :D
This was a family member and someone that you knew, cared for and loved. You waited till all of the mourners had left so that you could take photos that did not objectify or glorify anything, but that marked a significant milestone in your life also. These photos are also part of your bereavement process and while you are graciously concerned about what others may think, you need to focus on what is right for you and your family. You may want to ask the other family members if they mind, because you want to honor his life and that this is your way. If they do not mind, nobody else on here should mind.
Do what you think is right and not what others that did not know him will think. I fully agree with what @killerjackalope says that you shoudl think about what the deceased would want.
He wants photos of the funeral or service and wake if we have one...
Some people will tell you NO. some will say, do it with respect and dignity .
I say you know the person/s - family involved , and you know how they will react if those photos are made public..
I think more toward the future.. far into the future. and what / how we will be burying our dead then?
Sometimes its about preserving our past too...
I love looking at photos from 100 years ago... so that another way to look at it...
Right now, I am trying to get a project going to photograph a mortician performing his job. As you might imagine, I am finding it very difficult to secure permission. But I'm shooting the photos because people die, and it's the cycle of life.
I would say...post them. Show us that cycle of life. Then go shoot photos of a puppy.