After losing my older sister Octoberr 2010 my only other sibling my younger brother passed away yesterday after a battle with throat cancer. we that is him am I were what you call German squareheads and had not been in contact with each other in more than 30 years. after all this time I finally made the first move a month ago. then last Tuesday I saw him again and knew that his time had come. that same evening he was brought into the hospital again and he past away there the following Monday. I'm so sad for all the lost years. he has a son and daughter which I had never met before. Cindy is getting married August sixth and I can't imagine what she must be feeling like..I know she took it very hard as did the rest of her family.
P.S. My brother apparently loved the outdoors and especially .. walking in the forest ..so I thought this picture would be very appropiate as a tribute to him.
How very touching Bruni and I am sorry for your loss. Sorry for so much lost time too, but you must be so pleased that you made that move. A thoughtful picture for your brother.
I am so sorry for your loss and for the lost years. Yes, family members can be so stubborn. At least you reconciled at the end. That must have given your brother great peace of mind.
Very sorry for your loss. My little brother passed away the end of May and we were not on the best of speaking terms.... very serene setting. Definitely a place to reflect.
Bruni, my heart feels for you and the family. It's tough when life and its events interfere inrelationshis, but I am glad that you did have the opportunity to see him at the end. Thoughts and prayers your way.
@bruni Aw Bruni, what is it with us Germans that we let those things happen like that?? My dad didn't speak to us for seven years, though thankfully we all were reconciled two years before he died. I have learned to NOT let too much time go when there is any anger between me and people I love for I feel life is too short and one never knows from one day to the next. You are in my prayers, friend. What a sad sad time for you. I am so sorry. I am sending you a virtual hug. Know that we are with you.
@mary1440 Very touching. that you so much for your hug could really need one today. it hit me very hard more so for the lost years between us and that I didn't see his children grow up..I think he was more stubborn than I was. his wife tried so many time to reconcile us but he woudn't hear of it until I one day showed up at his doorstep. too bad I didn't do it much much sooner..
How sad for you to find and lose your brother so quickly. Good to hear that you saw him.
My loving thoughts are with you at this sad time.
Lovely photo for the day.
@loey5150 Thank you Lois for your kind words. I forgot to mention that he loved walking in the forest and we have seen him a few times when stopping at a red light on our way home. he would just be crossing the road in front of us as he lived on that street. what a coincidence to be at that light at that particular time.
My prayers are with you, Bruni. This kind of thing happens in too many families . . . even my own. Life is so short. Makes me want to call my own daughters SOON!
@bugik Just went back into my picture and noticed that my tribut to my brother was not with the picture but underneath somewhere as a comment. thanks for liking the peacful setting-he loved to walk in the forest.
Bruni., thank you for telling me to look at your tribute...I have really had a hard time keeping up with comments this summer as I am sure you understand. I'm sorry I have not commented more. Being that I am of German background myself, I know how stubborn people can be (though, really, I do not think it is only Germans) I think people allow their pride to get in the way, but life is short and it is not worth the hurt. Right now, my older son (he and his wife do not have any children, thank goodness) is going through a divorce and he has turned away from me...and I don't even know why. I keep trying to reach out to him but he does not want me in his life right now...it hurts... but when 2 people are involve they both have to give a little to keep the relationship going...in your case, you reached out to your brother and he accepted your peace offering...we can't turn back time but at least you know you made him feel better going to see him at the end. God bless you...I will say a little prayer for you and your brother. Hugs.
July 30th, 2011
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My loving thoughts are with you at this sad time.
Lovely photo for the day.