I was invited to a child's birthday party last Saturday by a friend who I haven't seen for awhile. I've asked him if he wanted an official photographer for the occasion and gave him a price of A$150 saying the price is a mate's rate. We missed each others calls and knowing a bit about him I assumed he's calling either to ask for a further discount or even do the photos for free as a gift or for a friend. I decided it's not worth the trouble and the minimal price so I withdrew my offer (even before he was able to accept my offer). Is my conscience guilty?
@mej2011 If you haven't seen him in a while, then he probably invited you so the child gets more gifts... I'm sure he's got a guilty conscience as well.
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I disagree. You don't know the circumstances that caused them to have not seen each other in a while, nor do you know what "in a while" means. The person may simply want to re-connect.
I don't think you should ask to take photos of friends. If they ask you to take them then that is another thing. Other wise you get in this situation. Unless of course you are doing them for free. But what do I know,,,,,,,,,
I have to agree with @miata2u and @mej2011 - I wouldn't have asked in the first place. The friend may have wanted to just get back in touch, finding their child's party an informal place to do this. I'm sure the friend probably felt awkward, about turning you down (they may have already had someone taking pics etc) and if the friend were me, I'd now feel you were only interested in accepting the invite to make money.... Just my opinion. Maybe you should call them to prevent the bridge being burned...??
@mej2011@meshinka guys i don't mean to stir up something and thanks for your thoughts. It's been a long time (i.e. awhile) that I have seen my friend but he's more of just an acquintance really, sorry to misled. I think he invited me just to have more kids on the birthday party, not to mention in the last minute i.e. a few days before the party =) We do play the same sport but he's been busy lately so re-connecting is not a prob.
@miata2u@kimmiesue thanks for your thoughts. I do take free photos for my friends moreso for birthdays, baptism, etc. I just drew the line wherein as a photographer, I could have given them the service without being so expensive if they're get it from outside. Again sorry to misled, as he's just an acquintance.
it kind of seems like you were charging him to attend. like, yeah, ill come to this party that you are inviting me to, but ill do so under the guise of a photographer, and you have to pay me to be there. i absolutely see where you are coming from, not wanting to do it for free because hes not a close friend, but if i were in his shoes, id be a little bit hurt and/or angry.
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I disagree. You don't know the circumstances that caused them to have not seen each other in a while, nor do you know what "in a while" means. The person may simply want to re-connect.
@miata2u @kimmiesue thanks for your thoughts. I do take free photos for my friends moreso for birthdays, baptism, etc. I just drew the line wherein as a photographer, I could have given them the service without being so expensive if they're get it from outside. Again sorry to misled, as he's just an acquintance.
peeps, have a read of the thread before you voice your opinion, and no accusations please, thanks.