Bad day, we have been visiting my parents in law with my husband and our daughters.
My father in law is very sick for months...my mother in law is not feeling better neither.
My husband decided to stay with them few days and send me back to our apartment by the seaside, because our daughters were a little bit chocked and so sad to see their grandfather in a wheelchair, with oxygen, pipes, plus he has lost a lot of weight : 20 kilos ...they almost didn't recognize him !
My MIL is not better and my husband has to take the decision to put her at the hospital or not...she has lost her head and is not able to manage anything...
I found this little flower in their garden yesterday, despite the beautiful sun, it came out very dark, so I postprocessed a little bit, like the result...
Hope is not because I hope a miracle...I just hope my FIL is not suffering too much, he's such an adorable man, I saw him crying for the first time yesterday ( because he realizes his wife and him will probably have to be separate ).
Oh and yesterday was his birthday, we bought Champagne, his favorite cake called in French a " bras de Venus" ( Venus arm ) and some macaroons ....he tasted everything :)
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oh corrine - so sorry to hear about your in-laws - it is so sad to see these once strong individuals now struggling with everyday life
i work with seniors in a day program and we see spouses and/or children trying to cope with their love one who is trying to remain independent - it is a difficult decision to take a family member from his or her home to go into assisted living or nursing home - it is especially difficult for families when they see their parent slipping away with dementia or alzheimer's or becoming physically frail - and so much guilt is felt for doing this even though it is better for everyone
@ruthhowell thanks for the warmful words Ruth, you find the right word: it's "guilty", we know we are not but we are so sad because there's no good solution...and we live far from them so it adds another difficultie, happily, they've got amazing friends, some members of their families, an incredible team of doctors, nurses and help.... But that's life and the end of it is sometimes hard...
My heart goes out to you and your family. This is such a tough, heartbreaking situation. It sounds like you have some good support, my prayers for you all.
It's the saddest part of life and it becomes more valuable that all family and friends are gathered against it. And the title of this picture shows the strength of your spirit and undying hope for the best! Saying simple words of support won't change the suffering of your parents in law ( I even can't imagine how it's hard for them), but knowing that they are said from all my heart will at least add the rays of light in our common hope that everything's for the best!
@ksyu thanks a lot Ksyu for the very kind words, it touches me a lot !
I've already lived that situation with my grands parents few years ago, now my in law....always sad, and yesterday I was feeling down, but tomorrow will be better...that's my philosophy ! Thanks again ;)
Such a beautiful shot and so sorry about your MIL and FIL. It is so hard to deal with illness in aging. I wish you and your family the best. Sounds like they are very lucky to have you there for them. One day at a time, always.
@cabawg@darsphotos thanks for the kind words, we saw them today.... We have decided that they will stay at home, they don't want to go to the hospital to live their last moments and we don't want to separate them, so my husband has organized an "army" of helping hands, nurses and so on to maintain them in their house as long as it will be possible... I'm feeling better :)
Thank for the support .
i work with seniors in a day program and we see spouses and/or children trying to cope with their love one who is trying to remain independent - it is a difficult decision to take a family member from his or her home to go into assisted living or nursing home - it is especially difficult for families when they see their parent slipping away with dementia or alzheimer's or becoming physically frail - and so much guilt is felt for doing this even though it is better for everyone
@wendyhgill @aleksandra thank a lot for the warm and adorable comments :)
I've already lived that situation with my grands parents few years ago, now my in law....always sad, and yesterday I was feeling down, but tomorrow will be better...that's my philosophy ! Thanks again ;)
Thanks a LOT for the kind words, I appreciated your compassion and support .
Thank for the support .
Happy to hear your in-laws will remain together.