A round trip of over 300km to Cape Town visit my Dad who was transferred here on Tuesday for some more tests at this large training institution. Was shocked at his appearance. Found him barely able to speak except to whisper he was frightened and lonely and feeling abandoned. Requested immediate transfer back to Vredenburg where he at least had the support of visit from my mother and I every day.
@gillian1912@cottiac@777margo@narayani@peggyhuffman@anniesue Thank you so much for all the good wishes. Yes my Dad was transferred back to Vredenburg. The doctor called me yesterday to say they have done all they can and now it is time to discharge him. I think it is a roundabout way of telling me to bring him home to die, but I have to work out how to get him home, and then how to deal with basic stuff ....
@seacreature oh Desi I feel for you x my son and I brought mum home to die, as was her wish, and it was such a beautiful, powerful, time for us all. She was ready, and clear, which made it so much easier. We also have a brilliant organisation here - Silver Chain - who provided a hospital bed (and all the other bits you need) and home care. Do you have anything like that? It meant she could pass in peace, with dignity in her own place...such a gift. My love to you.
@narayani Thanks so much for sharing that Narayani. It really does mean such a lot. One minute I think my Dad is looking good (compared with how he looked when he first went to the ward from casualty), and then the next minute I realise that in this past 3 and a half weeks he is actually a shadow of his former self. It is a lot of work turning him and doing bed baths and changing nappies (diapers) but if he is going to live longer this is where he has the best chance, and if now is his time to leave us, then at least he is in his familiar environment surrounded by love and the people he cares most about. He is ready to leave, and has said so.
November 23rd, 2016
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