I’m sorry to tell you but sadly my lovely Bill passed away on 19th April just one month after our amazing trip… life is cruel at times but somehow I will have to find the strength to keep going and find some joy… he’s at peace and I have to get comfort from our memories…
I’m now hoping this 365 project will help me find some joy in each day… and on the days I don’t have a picture I’m just going to be kind to myself and not stress about posting anything…
So sorry to read this Wendy, heartfelt condolences. May you find the strength you need during this difficult time. Hoping that 365 can give you some joy and positive energy.
@ludwigsdiana Thanks 🙏 Diana… I’ve been spending some time actually gardening, I’ve never needed to before as this was Bills passion I think he’d be pleased and probably find it funny especially when I squealed yesterday when a frog 🐸 jumped out of the water feature on me
Oh Wendy how dreadful, so sorry to read this. I was only thinking about you yesterday and wondered how you were going. My heartfelt condolences.
I do hope you will find the strength to carry on with 365.
My youngest daughter died aged 36 shortly after I began 365 in 2013 and I thought I would not be able to continue with this marvellous project, but decided to keep going anyway and it has been a Godsend.
I go out and look for good things in the world and this marvellous community has helped me tremendously. Just take it one day at a time and remember this is your project and your rules. Just post when you feel able and allow yourself to have good days as well as bad ones. Just move forward one day at a time and remember to take care of yourself. Sending lots of hugs xx
@onewing Dear Babs thank you for sharing your heartfelt story too… and showing your strength to carry on and I’m convinced that this is a very positive and powerful way to navigate the grief…sending a hug back to you too x
Dear Wendy- I am saddened to hear of your deep loss. I cannot imagine how it must feel except to say all of us are touched by death in one way or another at some time. I started on 365 just after the suicide of one of my students and the loss of my job (budget cuts). So I can say that 365 really does help because it got me out in the sunshine and looking for beauty each day which I needed to counter balance the sorrow. Since then it has become a truly supportive place through all life's ups and downs. In time you may want to check out GriefShare.org. It is a weekly support group which many have found extremely helpful. I will be holding you close in my prayers.
@olivetreeann Dear Anne I’m so sorry to hear of the sadness you must have felt… suicide of a young person is such a tragedy… I also can see that 365 is a great counterbalance to the sadness, trying to find something that brings happiness in each day has got to help in the healing process, and for sure the experience I’ve had with the kind people on here has been so positive…
I will definitely check out the recommendation thank you for taking the time xx
My deepest condolences. I can empathize, as my husband died quickly too early. Everyone grieves differently so don't let others worry you with their expectations. Cry, scream, shout when you want to (easier to do when you live by yourself like me). Call up a friend and suggest a change of location (coffee, walk, shopping) when things get too quiet (I live by myself). It helped me to keep busy so that I didn't think about it all the time. I was off 365 for a month because I couldn't be bothered. Then things started coming together. I too will be praying for your peace and comfort.
I am so very sorry to hear of Bill’s passing. Take good care of yourself and let friends help. I know you’ll need some alone time also. May happy memories bring you comfort. We are here for you on 365. Look forward to seeing a photo when ever you are ready.
@randystreat Thankyou so much Kathy and also for sharing your experience, I also appreciate your very sound and grounded advice…. I know I’m lucky to have close friends and family to lean on and I know it’s ok not to be ok… I’m just not trying to overthink the future as that’s when the enormity of the loss hits harder x
@amyk Thankyou Amy… I think 365 is such a positive project that trying to find something special in a day is a positive experience, I also am hoping that when I look back it will inspire to keep on trying 🙏
@illinilass Thankyou Dorothy, I am really trying to look after myself and getting my life back together in it’s new normal… my friends are really special and I know you’re right to say let friends help but it’s really hard to ask for help, I know I need to work on this x
So sorry for your loss Wendy, such a great change of life, losing your partner in life, especially if you've been together for a long time. I lost my husband 2 years ago next month. We had been married for 57 years, so a huge change, and so many legalities to deal with.
@carolmw oh Carol I’m so sorry for your loss too… we’ve been together for over 20 years and it feels like a huge change to my life now too… a bit scary really but no choice but to get on with the new normal… I know what you mean about the legalities I’m now trying to get my head around it all xx thanks for your kind words
Oh Wendy I am very sorry. I followed your trip down this way and you made some fab memories. Treasure those, and look after yourself. 💕 A little bit of advise that my Sister was given when her husband died after a very short illness.. 'Accept all invitations from people. '
@julzmaioro Thanks Julia, I’m trying hard to hold onto all of those beautiful memories… we have had 15 amazing years and it’s just a shock when it happens so quickly… I think the advice given to your sister is very valid as you do feel completely lost… thanks for sharing x
@julzmaioro oh no Julia I’m so sorry, that must have been a huge loss and a painful time for you and your family… definitely focusing on the positive and happy times help and keeping busy… that’s why I think that this 365 is a wonderful project to help to find positivity in each day 💕
A lovely shot of your beautiful garden.
I do hope you will find the strength to carry on with 365.
My youngest daughter died aged 36 shortly after I began 365 in 2013 and I thought I would not be able to continue with this marvellous project, but decided to keep going anyway and it has been a Godsend.
I go out and look for good things in the world and this marvellous community has helped me tremendously. Just take it one day at a time and remember this is your project and your rules. Just post when you feel able and allow yourself to have good days as well as bad ones. Just move forward one day at a time and remember to take care of yourself. Sending lots of hugs xx
So brave of you to tell us.
Look after yourself, let others look after you too.
I will definitely check out the recommendation thank you for taking the time xx
Thank you for sharing with us. Thinking of you during this difficult time.