sisters and the boy by summerfield

sisters and the boy

i have three living sisters. they're all crazier than i am. mwahahahahaha!

this was taken in 1982-ish, with a kodachrome slide film, using the self-timer of my then new minolta slr. i remember we just came back from dinner and we were discussing that we should have a sisters-only photograph. the two younger ones, vivianne and venilda, left, decided to put on make up when they normally wouldn't wear any. vivi, the youngest among the girls, is the prettiest (well, that's what people would say). she has our father's slim build and our mother's hair and facial features. nil, who is two years older than vivi, has our mother's complexion, hair and eyes. vilma is two years younger than myself.

when we were little girls, because vilma and i were of the same size, in fact i think she was a size bigger than me, people thought that we were twins. and i hated it, because at the same time they would say she was very pretty and i was ugly. vilma and i got our looks from our father.

when vilma was about two or three, a movie producer wanted to cast her in a movie starring charito solis, one of the filipino movie icons in the 50's and 60's, because apparently she looked like miss solis when miss solis was still a young girl. our father, however, is, was and will, not an opportunity grabber and he declined the offer.

growing up, i was the ugly daughter. “i can’t believe she’s yours,” people would tell my mother. or, they would ask her, “who is this, this is not your daughter, is it?” yes, i grew up being called ‘it’. we’d be playing with my cousins, from both maternal and paternal side, and i would hear this remark, “look at her, she’s the ugliest of the bunch!”

from an early age, being the ‘oldest' girl in the family (a culture thing, i suppose), i helped in taking care of my younger siblings. when our mother died in 1975, i effectively became their surrogate mother. yes, i bossed them around to the hilt. hehehehe! but i was, and still am, very protective of them. in fact if i have to live my life again, i would like my brothers and sisters to be my siblings again. hmmm….don't tell them i said that.

oh, the boy? that’s my son, bugsy. his mother vilma ran off with some asshole after she gave birth. but nil and her husband adopted him so we could bring him over to canada as the government would not let me adopt him because i was 'single' even though i raised him and he knew me as his mother. hence, the lucky so-and-so in fact has three mothers.

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446 words today; i'm chatty, aren't i?
It's incredible the cruel things that people say. I think all of you are pretty.
September 4th, 2014  
Too bad we only see the out side of people, the inner beauty is really what matters, what counts. I love your photos and your stories. Since there isn't an ugly person in this or any of your pictures I would say people were sadly mistaken.
September 4th, 2014  
you are all beautiful and it is sad that people can be so cruel
wonderful photo and beautifully told story
September 4th, 2014  
What a lovely family photo
September 4th, 2014  
I see a group of very pretty and vibrant young ladies accompanied by a young boy. People can be so cruel. Beauty comes from within. I admire your strength and that you worked though all their nastiness and emerged a strong happy person!
September 4th, 2014  
Wonderful gathering of family :)
September 4th, 2014  
I think it a wonderful pic and a sad story, in all your pictures i have always thought you so beautiful. I have always been "fatty" in our family, it does hurt even when we are grown up and should be able to pass through it. Keep sharing your pictorial stories, which we all enjoy so much. Both your inner and outer beauty come through so well. The person you have become is so much more important.
September 4th, 2014  
Your inner beauty shines in this story. This is a lovely family photo. You have been a very strong person who held things together. Congrats to you. You are wonderful.
September 4th, 2014  
Although , I usually tease you are here, I can not today. What horrible things come out of people. I see much beauty in you, and not only your facial features, but your soul and passion for people. I am glad you did not let that keep you from achieving, you are a strong woman and should stand proud.
September 4th, 2014  
I think you all look stunning, Bugsy looks handsome and all you girls look beautiful. Why people have to say such nasty things, I will never understand. They should feel ashamed of themselves!
September 4th, 2014  
I honestly think you have the nicest face
September 4th, 2014  
I think all four of you are gorgeous, but I was able to instantly pick out your almost fierce, very strong demeanor. Nice that you were able to figure out how to adopt bugsy.
September 4th, 2014  
I am a little unsure but am going to guess you are the prettiest one in this photo. I'm not sure whose standards you were being compared to but they aparently have no idea of what beauty really is! Loved the story and your willingness to share it!
September 4th, 2014  
Great shot. All those years of practice really show in your shots
September 4th, 2014  
I say equally pretty. And having a sister to be lined with the likes of Charito Solis is great big deal for me, because it means I am in the same beauty lineage too. =)
September 5th, 2014  
Wow! what an amazing story. You know by now that you are beautiful. I hope at least that you know it and the cruel things people do and say might have made you the strong, compassionate person you are. Thank you for sharing
September 5th, 2014  
Okay, whomever has ever said that about you is either blind or just plain stupid. I think each one of you are quite the beauties... and bugsy... adorable.. he is lucky to have 3 moms. and BTW. I picked you out instantly. still beautiful too..
September 5th, 2014  
Great looking family.....you are all and each one of you beautiful in your own special way (and, a little crazy, too, each in your own way... ;-))))) Yes, people can be incredibly stupid and cruel, but it has made you who you are, and that is pretty amazing. Plus, my mom used to say that it is not your looks but your luck that matters in life!
September 5th, 2014  
The more you write, the more beautiful you become to me.
September 6th, 2014  
You are a very talented story teller my friend your beauty is self evident not only in person but also in your writing. Thank you for sharing and giving us some insight into your personal life growing up. Hope we can get together soon for a day of laughter and photography. Blessings.
September 11th, 2014  
Such an incredible story! I think I can pick which one is you and that’s definitely not because you are the ugly one, all I see are four beautiful women.
June 6th, 2020  
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