the boys didn't come again this weekend. there were some issues. their father doesn't like confrontation so when the mother refuses to give the children, he lets it go. i think that we may not see the boys for quite a while.
so it was with some sadness that when partner and i went for breakfast this morning, i told him that i will sort out the boys' clothes and maybe give some to little jack and just keep a few around for if and when they come back. when he said 'yes' i could see that he was almost on the verge of tears but resigned to that fact, wheareas before he would say "wait and see".
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yesterday, partner drove me uptown to show me this sculpture in front of a low-rise rental building. it was a quiet neighbourhood and the sculpture is the first thing you see when you enter the street leading to the cul-de-sac. i commented that the persons depicted in the sculpture looked like his parents when i first met them when we had just started dating. he said that he was thinking it would be us in 30 years time. i told him i don't intend to stay alive that long and that he wouldn't be able to make me wear something like that which makes the boobs look weird and ugly.
he was so taken by this beautiful piece of art that he wanted me to take photos in different angles. however, no matter what angle i took, that was the one thing that stood out for me.
I had to enlarge this to see what you were talking about! You have given me a chuckle with your opinion. This is a beautiful sculpture and you got the light just right. Sorry to hear of the situation with the boys. It is hard but sometimes you just have to let go and let God. He will be watching them for you and when the time is right you will see them again. It will be a happy day.
It's a lovely capture, summerfield ...sort of has a charm of its own. Love the pov and the lighting on this. You and partner are alot like my husband and myself. The two of us ... enjoying the adventures of life. Sorry to hear about the little guys ... that has to be very hard for partner. I know how much he loves them. Someday they will be able to visit whenever they want to .... it will happen eventually.
grandparents can play a positive role in a child's life but many parents dont see it that way. grandparents also have rights ... maybe partner wants to check that out some day.
@sunnygreenwood - yes, that is true. the boys learn so many positive things from us. from me, they see so many books and sometimes when they misbehave and we punish by not letting them use the computer, they spend their time reading 'the big books', getting absorbed in it that they would ask a lot of questions and they expected to get sensible answers. with partner, he introduced them to a number of board games that made them analyze situations. the younger one learned how to count from monopoly and snakes and ladders, and the older one learned the value of money, heavens! he's a sly one in monopoly. we balance that with playing outdoors or bringing them on trips, showing them the countryside and we know they enjoyed every outings; remember similarities of places we passed by and of course, they learned how to behave in restaurants, especially that partner liked to bring us to fine dining. not every child get those at such an early age. we do hope though that those stay with them as they grow up. thank you, anne.
@pamfromcalgary - thank you, pam. we will have to learn to live with the situation. i keep a diary of what has happened from our own point of view and someday when they are older, i will give it to them. right now, they are too young to resist their mother; but when they do come, we still have to give them a positive environment. heaven knows, all the time we get them, they didn't want to go home. my niece is looking into getting 'child advocacy' people to get involved. thanks again.
@karenann - thank you, KA. yes, from your little stories, we do seem to be alike in a number of ways. it will be interesting when we all get to meet each other. one day, preferably sooner. thank you for your encouraging words about the boys. we're banking on how much they appreciate what they get from us in terms of knowledge, not to mention their own computers. we don't spoil them, we give them a lot of encouragement on a lot of things. a lot of their stuff they didn't want to bring home because they're the ones who would say, "but we want it here, this is our second home". but we could see how much they'd love to take their things with them, but maybe they're not allowed to bring back anything. who knows? so i told partner, it would be just him and me these days. gheez, that's scary. there goes my freedom! :-)
@alia_801 - thank you, alia. i took shots from so many angles, but the way the sunlight was, and because this was the point of view that partner sees, i thought it appropriate to post this one. thank you, too, for your concern about the boys, it's much appreciated.
@jannkc - i know! that's what caught my eye when i was reviewing the shots on my computer. i have a shot angled from above their heads and that turned out really weird, too! partner doesn't see that. hehehehe!
@summerfield I am so sorry about you not getting to see the boys enough! Keep fingers crossed that will change! I love the colorful brick and green ivy on this...the composition is really quite wonderful...even if that poor old lady's boobs are so droopy! Haha You cracked me up how you said your partner would never be able to make you wear something to make you look like that. If you and @karenann get to meet up, I want to come! :0) I'll just invite myself! It would maybe never happen to get airfare, but you never know! I'd love to meet up with Carolyn White,Joyce Wells, and Katy too!
your photo is amazing; your words are heartbreaking. i do not know what grandparent rights are in canada but they seem to be fairly limited here. if the father has established visitation, he needs to contact his attorney so there does not have to be confrontation. if the mother causes it, he needs to document it each and every time, whether it be in person, on the phone, internet, whatever. that constitutes custodial interference if it is disrupting his visitation schedule and that is destructive to the children's welfare. hate to put it this way, but he needs to stand up. these are his kids. i almost went to jail for refusing to allow my ex to see my kids - after he tried to shoot me. he still had rights to see them. the law is the law.
